Emotional Intelligence is not a contest between emotions v. thinking where there's a "winner". It's the interface between the two. The more we learn about emotions and managing them, the more we can choose what's the thing to do at the time, with the best results.

From a blog . . ."Does the Heart Just Pump Blood?" She struggles with the fact that she "knows better" than to take a dive when she sees her ex, but, alas the heart doesn't always listen. The heart has reasons of its own ...

A very pathetic thing to happen.....When u say ex u mean you have moved on in life , left your past in the past , ur living in the 'now', ur so sure nothing from the past can pin ur nerve and then suddenly boom one shot of him/her and ur hoplessly thinking again...................

A coupla years ago i had written an article for my college magazine , it was in my last teen yrs....i compared the heart and head to the horzin at the sea. Its like the Sun and Sea seen to meet at the horizn but they actually don't . We think that the mind and the heart work together ...but actually the function of the heart is just to pump blood and it has nothing to do with what happens in the right side of ur brain.......it was applaueded...

Years later of u asked me about the heartache on the sight of an ex i would say 'my heart is dumb'...Can never figure out why the right part of the brain stops functioning just with one moment....i mean where is all the rantionalization , the positive thinking, the more to life , morality , year of working on moving on , self esteeem fundas go in the one silly moment of indulgence.....
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We can REASON all we like about how we FEEL, and it won't change how we feel. That has to come from another level. In fact if we attempt to "argue" with our feelings, we will only give them power.

We know from research these days that the heart "doesn't just pump blood," it is intimately connected to our feelings. People actually do die of "broken hearts", and show up in the ER after traumatic events with symptoms very like a heart attack, although otherwise, their hearts are quite healthy. In fact ER doctors have given this syndrome a name, as it's not uncommon.

Emotions effect us physiologically, which is another GOOD REASON TO STUDY EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. Take the EQ ALIVE! PROGRAM and learn more. For information, mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc . This program will be individualized to meet your personal needs.