Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Is Emotional Intelligence Just the Fad du Jour?


OR IS IT THE KEY (Click on link to read full article)

QUOTES FROM AROUND THE WORLD

“Top leaders are getting in touch with their emotions and those of their staff as intuition and emotional intelligence become the hottest management buzzwords.” (Australia)

“Let me leave you with the million Ringgit question,” writes a Malaysian consultant. “Is it imperative to measure our emotional intelligence and take appropriate steps to bridge our EI gaps? Only you can decide. I rest the case with you.”

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN EQ IS LOW?
It’s expensive in terms of lost money, opportunity, time, relationships, promotions, careers, projects, goals, accomplishments, self-esteem, marriages, physical and emotional health, and even life.

– 75% of careers are derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies
– 70% of the reasons why customers and clients are lost are EQ-related
– 50% of time wasted in business is due to lack of trust
– Seniors get worse in hospitals when the physical therapists don’t engage with them
– Counseling clients fail to change because their counselors lack empathy or optimism
– 50% of marriages fail
– Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death for youths aged 15-24 in the US
– Think this is because of industrialized society? Think again. Samoa has the highest suicide rate in the world.
– Impulsive boys are 3-6x as likely to be violent adolescents
– Low levels of empathy predict poor school performance
– Gifted children manifest a near “blindness” to social cues which leads to isolated and sad childhoods
– Doctors with poor EQ skills get sued more
– 75-90% of visits to primary care physicians in the US are due to stress-related problems
– Pessimists live shorter, unhealthier, unhappier, lives, and are less likely to achieve their potential than optimists
– College students in a study with the same IQ and GPA who did not write down their career goals with Intentionality were 50% less successful 15 years later
– Perfectionism is potent. Perfectionists produce better work, get better grades, get enormous positive feedback. Perfectionists also have a markedly higher suicide rate.

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Birth Order

THE TWINS

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As the world watches, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are preparing to adopt their third child.

Angelina and Brad will now have four children.

Maddox, from Cambodia, is 5
Zahara, from Ethiopia, is 2
and
Shiloh, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's own child is 10 months

Now look what happens when Brad and Angelina's adopted son from Vietnam, Pax, enters the family picture

Pax is 3 years old. So it will be
Maddox, 5 - a boy
Pax, 3 - a boy
Zahara, 2 - a girl
Shiloh, 10 mos. - a girl

This could make a Family Divide -- the boys (the oldest) and the girls (the youngest). It bumps Zahara down a "rung" in the family hierarchy. It makes Maddox even more the "oldest" and Shiloh even more "the baby." Are there now two "middle" children, or no middle child? Will Maddox feel a special burden as the oldest child, with another sibling to "take care of"? Will Shiloh try even harder to be "the baby"?

How will this all work out? Will they all be able to adjust?

Birth order has a big effect on our personalities, attitudes, perceptions of the world, and feelings of self-esteem.

DID YOU EVER WONDER ....

Why so many US presidents were first-borns?
Does the youngest always remain "the baby" and become "the captured child"?
Does the middle child hate confrontation and always feel cheated?
Are first borns more murturing when they become parents themselves?
Is is true that a first-born male married to "the baby girl" is one of the best marriages? And that a woman who marries a man with sisters on each side of him will have a dream come true?
Are only children always "spoiled"?
Why are twins so popular with other kids?
Is an only child always a lonely misfit?
Do kids fight more the larger the family is?
How is the family different when a girl is oldest, v. when a boy is the oldest?
Does a marriage of two first-borns always have to be a disaster?

What would you do if you were Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt and about to bring this new child into the family? What can you do about this in your own life - your own feelings from childhood, or things that are happening with your own children?

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