Do these pants make my butt look too big?

About honesty in relationships, and "the truth."

A constant sort point in male-female relationships has to do with "the truth." To many men, truth is an absolute.

There's a joke circulating about this now - one of many. Here it is:

A woman is standing nude looking in the bedroom mirror. She is not happy with what she sees and says to her husband, 'I feel horrible; I look old, fat and ugly. I really need you to pay me a compliment.'

He quickly replies, "Well you have perfect eyesight."

I hate to belabor the obvious on this one. It's a joke because we all know this.

IF you don't have tact, and if you confuse "honesty" with "the truth", as if you owned the truth ... please take some EQ training.

If you are a kind and decent person and a person needs reassurance, give it. It's the higher path.

The "truth" is a relative thing, subject to one's subjectivity. Kindness matters more in human relationships.

BE KIND. Everyone you know is going through something harder than you can even imagine.

Are you trying to get a book published?

In today's mailbag ...

Eva Shaw, author of over 70 books submitted her first book 49 times before she found a publisher.

JK. Rowling? 29 times - and she had a friend in the business.

Don't give up!

***** Save and repeat for when I get bummed after dozens of my own rejections ****

Good advice, coach!