Need to interview people over 50 who are dating

We are preparing to write the most extensively researched book on Dating After 50 yet. This is a very complicated issue - dating after 50 - and we intend to interview 100s more people about what works and what doesn't, what they mean when they say "blah blah", how to tell who just wants sex v. who wants marriage v. some sort of relationship but no committment. We all wish people would wear labels!

We've already intereviewed 100s of men and women, but we will continue gathering data until time off publication. This is not a fabricated book about what we think, or wish, or imagine it's like. We are gathering HARD DATA so you can finally get some information about what really workss -- and what doesn't.

We will show you exactly how to interpret it when a man says, "LTR not necessary" or "my wife used to beat me," or "Let's start as friends and see what develops."

Email me NOW is you are willing to be interviewed, anonymously or otherwise - sdunn@susandunn.cc .

What Happens When you Give to a Woman?

THE HOUSE DOES NOT REST UPON THE GROUND, BUT UPON A WOMAN.
Mexican Proverb

Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.

If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.

If you give her a house, she'll give you a home.

If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal.

If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart.

She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.

Do these pants make my butt look too big?

About honesty in relationships, and "the truth."

A constant sort point in male-female relationships has to do with "the truth." To many men, truth is an absolute.

There's a joke circulating about this now - one of many. Here it is:

A woman is standing nude looking in the bedroom mirror. She is not happy with what she sees and says to her husband, 'I feel horrible; I look old, fat and ugly. I really need you to pay me a compliment.'

He quickly replies, "Well you have perfect eyesight."

I hate to belabor the obvious on this one. It's a joke because we all know this.

IF you don't have tact, and if you confuse "honesty" with "the truth", as if you owned the truth ... please take some EQ training.

If you are a kind and decent person and a person needs reassurance, give it. It's the higher path.

The "truth" is a relative thing, subject to one's subjectivity. Kindness matters more in human relationships.

Online Dating Sites - Are They for You?

Having a hard time finding your life partner??

SUSAN DUNN IS THE DATING COACH.

Let me help you LOOK ONLINE for your PARTNER. I am Attract Your Dream Partner Expert for major website, and a Dating Coach, specializing in online dating as well as traditional.

WHY NOT LET A DATING COACH HELP YOU FIND THE PARTNER OF YOUR DREAMS!

If you are interested in finding your life partner, why aren’t you looking online? Whatever misgivings you may have here are some things to consider.

According to the media, “bringing people together…is a $500 million online industry.” And at this point http://www.match.com/ appears to be in the lead. A recent article in the newspaper alleged that the online dating sites had peaked, but our common sense tells us it has not. As a Dating Coach, I can tell you that I get a new client every day who hasn’t been online yet.

And why would you aside from the numbers?

Well, here’s an example.

Martha, a client, is a professional who lives, by her own admission, “in the boondocks.” She works long hours in a city in the Midwest, so doesn't have time to get out -- but then where would she “get out” to, she asks me? Bars and other watering-holes are not the place for her, she says, as they are not for many. The hardest part, though, is that she grew up on the East Coast, and wants to return to the Ocean. So how else is she going to meet the man of her dreams in Indianapolis, Indiana, but to get online.

Then there’s my client who lives in a state and for her own reasons does not want to date someone from that state. There are plenty of “misplaced” persons who would not only be WILLING to relocate, but EAGER to.

Here’s another example. This client is from the Middle East, where the courtship and dating rules are different, and she prefers that style and culture. The percentage of the population in that town that's from her own background? It flies flies below the radar screen. I showed her there’s an online dating site for the group she’s interested in – to her surprise.

Here’s another example. This client happens to want to date Jewish men, although she is not Jewish herself. I showed her a couple of sites (like jdate.com and jpeoplemeet.com) and a quick perusal showed her that the people on the site are interested in meeting and dating Jewish people, though they may not be so themselves. A male client is interested in dating Italian women, and enjoys being on http://www.italianpeoplemeet.com/ .

Granted it can be daunting to maneuver the sites and that’s why a Dating Coach is such a great idea. You can save yourself a lot of time, and take advantage of their vast experience. For one thing, you can jump the learning curve about things like – how the sites work, how to get your name back in the front, what usernames work and what usernames don’t, how to make sure someone you aren’t interested in cannot contact you, the difference between the paid sites and the free sites, what to do about “flirts” and “winks,” appropriate replies, what to avoid, and so forth. It’s always good to go over safety issues too. And what about a photo? Should you or should you not? And what about that site that’s so heavily advertised on TV? I don’t recommend it, and I’ll tell you why.

Dating is more complex than ever. More people are entering the dating scene every day, and the challenge is to get them together, because everyone’s looking.

Looking for what? Well that’s another thing to go over with your coach. What about the man who says he’s “separated” and wants a “casual relationship” or the widower who says he wants “a long-term relationship”? Your coach can help you decipher all these ‘codes’ and help you phrase your own profile in the most positive, dynamic and appealing way, that shows who you really are and what you want.

Let's face it, looking online helps you swing a much wider net. Why not?? Why wait to get aboard this $500 million industry?

P.S. If you're worried about "long distance" dating, I can tell you some examples of great success (and how to make it work for YOU).

HE/SHE IS LOOKING FOR YOU JUST AS HARD AS YOU ARE LOOKING FOR HIM/HER.

eMail me for Dating Coaching - sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Dating for Shy Guys

Dating for Shy Guys

"Language is a behavior potentially under our control," says the article, "and a powerful loop. Its how we act upon the world, and how the world acts upon us. Its how we express our thoughts and feelings, and it also influences our thoughts and feelings. This includes what we say to ourselves as well as what others say to us. Barring physical force, language is how we get what we want."

Some of the Tips:
1. Manage your self-talk about women.
2. Manage your self-talk about dating.
3. Manage your language when you're out.
4. Overgeneralization.
5. Polarized Thinking.

For the rest of the article, go here: the oryal beatty

Clausewitz on Love (Strategy that wins)

WHAT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO WIN THAN WAR AND WOMEN?
Carl von Clausewitz is arguably the best military strategist who ever lived. But if you read about his love affair with his wife, you will see that strategy is strategy and winning is winning. And it will may you rethink the term "emotional intelligence."

See my new ebook "Clausewitz on Winning Women" - email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc to order or click HERE.
















Carl von Clausewitz, Prussian officer who fought against the French in the Napoleanis wars, and was a master military strategist

“At the heart of strategy there must be a heart that knows what to do with strategy."
-- von Clausewitz

Here is the last love letter he wrote his wife of many years, shortly before he died in a cholera epidemic in 1831:

What causes me deep sorrow is that I did not take greater care of you—it was not my fault. I thank you, dear angel, for the help you have given me in life,

When I first beheld you, I felt
As though in the presence of an angel’s majesty
I trembled through and through
And my heart whispered a childlike prayer;
Stay, kind stranger, stay here in this world below;
Through your eyes‘ beautiful gaze, bless and
Lead me back to life’s tranquil peace
From all the storms of life!
You gave me your hand in friendship
Under an angel’s protective wing
Our path sings gently through life
And in heaven resides our bliss
Do you recognize these lines?

They were there at the outset of our alliance, and should be there at the end, as well. I embrace you dear angel, until we meet again in better circumstances.
__________________

Carl von Clausewitz was a 19th-century Prussian general and is considered by many to be the great military strategist who ever lived. He was studied by Eisenhower, Kissinger, Patton, Chairman Mao, and others.

Clausewitz sought to understand and analyse the phenomenon of war so that future leaders could conduct and win conflicts more effectively.

He studied not only the tactical and technological side of war, but also the human and social factors. Two things he mentions which favor winning, which you might now expect to hear are, the assistance of the people and the use of great moral forces.

What is wonderful to those of us who most strategize, teach others to, and strategize for others, are his real-world insights.

1. "Yet this is nothing but wretched book learning," he says
2. "If you wish to enter that theater of strategy you must abandon all hope of finding the certainties and control to which they are accustomed in other pursuits and consider the surrender of such hopes as a rite of passage in strategy."
3. Friction – unexpected interference – is what makes the seemingly easy so difficult. It is inevitable. "…[T]he general [and the rest of us trying to do anything] must have knowledge of friction in order to overcome it, where possible, and in order not to expect a level of precision in his operations that simply cannot be achieved owing to this very friction."
4. Negativity capacity, that it is not always clear - "being at ease when in bafflement or doubt and not seeking escapes at any cost."
5. "The weaker the defender's morale, the more brazen the attack must be."
6. The nature of "military genius" involces matters of personality and character, beyond intellect
7. "Given the same amount of intelligence, timidity will do a thousand times more damage than audacity."
8. "If you entrench yourself behind strong fortifications, you compel the enemy seek a solution elsewhere."
9. WAITING
10. "Never forget that no military leader has ever become great without audacity. If the leader is filled with high ambition and if he pursues his aims with audacity and strength of will, he will reach them in spite of all obstacles."
11. "The majority of people are timid by nature, and that is why they constantly exaggerate danger. All influences on the military leader, therefore, combine to give him a false impression of his opponent's strength, and from this arises a new source of indecision."
12. "After we have thought out everything carefully in advance and have sought and found without prejudice the most plausible plan, we must not be ready to abandon it at the slightest provocation. Should this certainty be lacking, we must tell ourselves that nothing is accomplished in warfare without daring; that the nature of war certainly does not let us see at all times where we are going; that what is probable will always be probable though at the moment it may not seem so; and finally, that we cannot be readily ruined by a single error, if we have made reasonable preparations."
13. "War is the province of chance. In no other sphere of human activity must such a margin be left for this intruder. It increases the uncertainty of every circumstance and deranges the course of events."
14. "The best form of defense is attack."
15. "There is only one decisive victory: the last."
16. "No one starts a war-or rather, no one in his senses ought to do so-without first being clear in his mind what he intends to achieve by that war and how he intends to conduct it."
17. "Pursue one great decisive aim with force and determination."
18. "If the enemy is to be coerced, you must put him in a situation that is even more unpleasant than the sacrifice you call on him to make. The hardships of the situation must not be merely transient - at least not in appearance. Otherwise, the enemy would not give in, but would wait for things to improve."
19. With strategy one does not see at least half the situation with one’s own eyes, rather, everything must be guessed at ad resumed, which decreases one’s level of conviction. As a result most generals become bogged down in ineffectual fears when they should be taking action.
    

Clausewitz love affair with his wife was well-known in Prussian society, and his private life was exemplary. Read more about his "strategy" for love in my ebook, Clausewitz on Winning Women. Mailto:sdunn@susandun.cc.

You will also want to read

ON WAR, by von Clausewitz

Or click HERE to order.

and a great short compilation of his theories, particularly applied to the business world, called

Clausewitz on Strategy: Inspiration and Insight from a Master Strategist
by the Strategy Institute of the Boston Consulting Group



or click HERE

Dating Success Manual for Women

At last there's help.











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Attract Your Ideal Partner (and keep him) Expert



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Copy MySpace for Better Personal and Customer Relations

HOW DO YOU PLEASE YOUR CLIENTS AND CUSTOMERS?
OW DO YOU PLEASE YOUR LOVED ONES?

BE QUICK CHANGE ARTIST

We could all take a lesson from MySpace.

Why do users say they love it?

They keep doing what everyone really wants, and it happens instantly.

No sooner do you articulate it, than it appears ... now isn't that the heart's delight of all of us?

It changes all the time keeping up with what we want. Sometimes it's great new things you couldn't even have thought of.

There's always something new and it's all good stuff.

Learn how to be more flexible while still retaining your authenticity with THE EQ COURSE.

One-time coaching sessions always available, as-needed or scheduled. Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .