The WSJ and the Dating Coach

“People can sense your intolerance,” they said. “They can smell negativity.”

Is that you? That's what this woman's friends told her about her lack of success at dating.

The WSJ article on Dating Coach adds:

A few suggested that I try something for the truly desperate: a dating coach. Unlike matchmakers, dating coaches do not arrange dates. Instead, they act as cheerleaders and advisers, pointing out less than helpful behavior.

This article in now over a year old, and I think we all know by now that coaching isn't for the desperate. Also "cheerleader" is not my fave term for coaching, but it's part of it. Think of it more like a boxing coach, if you will. Someone IN YOUR CORNER who knows what's going on at the META level. Someone who can make you better at what you do.

Desperate? We recommend you devote 15 hours a week to your dating, only a part on the Internet.

With the massive numbers of folks looking for matches online, it's clearly the thing to do. Remember, it's a $500 billion dollar industry.

Yes, I am a DATING COACH. I outline for you a STRATEGY that will work. And yes, post-game analysis is part of it. Haven't you come back from a date saying, "I know I shouldn't have..." We eliminate a lot of that, and also the nerves or ennui that go along with it.

Look at it like a job hunt in a difficult terrain. Like, there are places you can live and credentials you might have that make a job hunt an oxymoron. But if you live in a town with low unemployment and have a great but esoteric or over-supplied field, in marketing we would say "a soft market," you will be interviewing, and it helps to know the ropes.

Same with dating. With a Dating Coach, you benefit from all my experience listening to hundreds of daters, my knowledge of the sites, and years of coaching.

I specialize in men and women over 40.
Call me at 817-734-1471, 817-741-7223, or email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc and let's get started!

Reasonable rates. Unreasonable results.

Susan is Attract Your Dream Partner Expert for a major website, and Adult and Senior Development Expert for selfgrowth.com, the largest self help portal on the Internet.

Let's get going! Time's a-wastin'. I love what I do, and you will too.

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Online Dating Sites - Are They for You?

Having a hard time finding your life partner??

SUSAN DUNN IS THE DATING COACH.

Let me help you LOOK ONLINE for your PARTNER. I am Attract Your Dream Partner Expert for major website, and a Dating Coach, specializing in online dating as well as traditional.

WHY NOT LET A DATING COACH HELP YOU FIND THE PARTNER OF YOUR DREAMS!

If you are interested in finding your life partner, why aren’t you looking online? Whatever misgivings you may have here are some things to consider.

According to the media, “bringing people together…is a $500 million online industry.” And at this point http://www.match.com/ appears to be in the lead. A recent article in the newspaper alleged that the online dating sites had peaked, but our common sense tells us it has not. As a Dating Coach, I can tell you that I get a new client every day who hasn’t been online yet.

And why would you aside from the numbers?

Well, here’s an example.

Martha, a client, is a professional who lives, by her own admission, “in the boondocks.” She works long hours in a city in the Midwest, so doesn't have time to get out -- but then where would she “get out” to, she asks me? Bars and other watering-holes are not the place for her, she says, as they are not for many. The hardest part, though, is that she grew up on the East Coast, and wants to return to the Ocean. So how else is she going to meet the man of her dreams in Indianapolis, Indiana, but to get online.

Then there’s my client who lives in a state and for her own reasons does not want to date someone from that state. There are plenty of “misplaced” persons who would not only be WILLING to relocate, but EAGER to.

Here’s another example. This client is from the Middle East, where the courtship and dating rules are different, and she prefers that style and culture. The percentage of the population in that town that's from her own background? It flies flies below the radar screen. I showed her there’s an online dating site for the group she’s interested in – to her surprise.

Here’s another example. This client happens to want to date Jewish men, although she is not Jewish herself. I showed her a couple of sites (like jdate.com and jpeoplemeet.com) and a quick perusal showed her that the people on the site are interested in meeting and dating Jewish people, though they may not be so themselves. A male client is interested in dating Italian women, and enjoys being on http://www.italianpeoplemeet.com/ .

Granted it can be daunting to maneuver the sites and that’s why a Dating Coach is such a great idea. You can save yourself a lot of time, and take advantage of their vast experience. For one thing, you can jump the learning curve about things like – how the sites work, how to get your name back in the front, what usernames work and what usernames don’t, how to make sure someone you aren’t interested in cannot contact you, the difference between the paid sites and the free sites, what to do about “flirts” and “winks,” appropriate replies, what to avoid, and so forth. It’s always good to go over safety issues too. And what about a photo? Should you or should you not? And what about that site that’s so heavily advertised on TV? I don’t recommend it, and I’ll tell you why.

Dating is more complex than ever. More people are entering the dating scene every day, and the challenge is to get them together, because everyone’s looking.

Looking for what? Well that’s another thing to go over with your coach. What about the man who says he’s “separated” and wants a “casual relationship” or the widower who says he wants “a long-term relationship”? Your coach can help you decipher all these ‘codes’ and help you phrase your own profile in the most positive, dynamic and appealing way, that shows who you really are and what you want.

Let's face it, looking online helps you swing a much wider net. Why not?? Why wait to get aboard this $500 million industry?

P.S. If you're worried about "long distance" dating, I can tell you some examples of great success (and how to make it work for YOU).

HE/SHE IS LOOKING FOR YOU JUST AS HARD AS YOU ARE LOOKING FOR HIM/HER.

eMail me for Dating Coaching - sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Do you find dating impossible??

I specialize in helping men and women over 40 find their dream partner.

The Top 10 Ways to Succeed at Internet Dating

1. Hire a dating coach.

He or she can save you literally years in the learning curve. Imagine the experience of listening to hundreds of people dating online (and traditional).

2. Choose a name that describes but isn't offensive, aggressive or too sex-oriented.

Brightgirl is good. Boner69 is not. HappyguyinMA is good. Hotgirl is not. (Taken from actual websites.)

3. Keep your emails short and to the point.

This indicates you're interested in dating, not writing.

4. Don't answer flirts and winks

and don't expect yours to be answered. When you're ready to get serious you'll do it right.

5. Move it quickly from email to phone to real date.

Times a-wasting.

6. Up your rejection quotient.

All good sales people know that when the rejections go up, you're about to score. Don't give up, just keep at it.

7. Get a good photo.

It should be current, tasteful and clear. Guys, don't go in the bathroom take off your shirt and hold your cell phone up in front of the mirror. (Yes, there are many like that on the net.) Close up shots with nature backgrounds, or interesting locations (hotel lobby) seem to work best.

8. Change your profile weekly.

This brings you to the attention of searchers; that's just the way the sites work.

9. Investigate different sites.

There's something out there for every interest group, nationality, etc. Read through the profiles and see if it's got the kind of people on it you're interested in.

10. Reveal enough, not too much. We all like a little mystery. (Gals, guys especially like the mystery!)

There are sites that are free, and sites you pay for. Basically speaking, you get what you pay for.



EMAIL ME FOR DATING COACHING - sdunn@susandunn.cc or call me at 817-741-7223. I have coached hundreds of people, internationally. I also train and certify other coaches, so come and learn from the coach who teaches the other coaches.





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