Make Your Copper Canyon Train Trip Easier

I just got back from this Copper Canyon train trip. It is truly a trip you don't want to miss. Barranca del Cobre, that is! P.S. One of the hotel owners told us that Stephen Hawking had taken the train trip.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR TRIP TO COPPER CANYON MEXICO EASIER

You’ve probably heard about the train trip through Copper Canyon in Mexico. The Chihuahua Pacifico, “El Chepe” for short, is the only passenger train in Mexico. It winds its way through the Copper Canyon system which is bigger than the Grand Canyon in the US. It is increasingly becoming a tourist magnet. On our train ride, there were tourists from the US, France, Italy, Germany, and Mexico.

You can fly to El Paso and then drive to the city of Chihuahua, spend the night there and then board the train early in the morning, like 5:30 a.m. Don’t worry, you can get a hot breakfast on board. There’s a dining car and also a bar. The Copper Canyon train runs between Ojinaga (north) and Los Mochis, in the state of Sinaloa, near the Sea of Cortez, but passenger service begins in Chihuahua City.

Your Copper Canyon train trip will take you from sea level to more than 8,000 feet as the train cuts its way through the Sierra Madre Mountains. Reports vary (and we didn’t count) but there are over 75 tunnels, and over 30 bridges. The views are spectacular, covering all types of terrain – farmland, Indian dwellings, hills, canyons, rivers, springs, waterfalls – you’ll see it all. You can stand between cars for a better view, fresh air, and great photographs. This is truly a photographer’s dream trip, but great for hikers and outdoor enthusiasts as well. The train always stops at the town of Divisadero so passengers can get out and see the view. As the name would suggest, Divisadero is at a dividing point between the Atlantic and Pacific watershed. You can see down three of the canyons: Cobre (copper), Urique, and Tarahumara. You’ll also want to do some souvenir shopping. The Tarahumara Indians sell their crafts and there are also food stands.

The Copper Canyon railroad was begun in the late 19th century but because of various problems, not completed until 1961. The entire trip takes around 15 hours. Worried about disorder? There’s a military guy with a machine gun on board, because I guess there used to be robberies. Well not any more!
Since this is not a sleeper train, you can stay in hotels along the way where you may find trail rides, hiking, a van trip down the canyon, ATMs, local music, sights (like balancing rock), missions, food and shopping.

Google “Copper Canyon” images and take a look at the photos. If this whets your appetite, here are some tips to make your trip easier:

1. Southwest Airlines flies to El Paso. That’s a no-brainer. We spent the night there, and then our guide drove us across the border to Chihuahua the next day.

2. Be sure you have a valid passport.

3. Use My Power Mall. For instance, when I clicked “Travel”, Southwest Airlines was right next to a place that provides quick passports, and you get a rebate on both. Then there were stores for buying the necessary vacation clothes, and then click over to a drugstore where you can get some Imodium.

4. Yeah, it’s a good idea to take something for turista, just in case. While you’re on My Power Mall you can also check for tours and accommodations. Wyndham is on there, Hyatt, Marriot. Heck, BritRail Tours is even on there – 1000s of “stores” to choose from, rebates on all of them.

5. You’ll also need some special clothes for your trip, available at discount from 1000s of merchants through My Power Mall as well. Specifically we recommend:

a. A hat or head covering, sunglasses, and good sunscreen. Think of it like skiing in Colorado. High altitude.

b. Comfortable casual clothes, jeans, shorts, t-shirts are fine. The temperature can vary. Bring layers. Of course there is air-conditioning on the train. In one hotel, we turned the heat on at night.

c. A backpack or something you can put over your shoulder to put all your things in like purse, passport and camera.

d. Film or batteries for the camera. Trust me – you’ll take hundreds of photos and never tire.

e. Shoes for horseback riding, hiking and the ATV.

f. Something for rain. There were sort of tropical showers in the afternoons and evenings when we were there.

g. Bathing suit. Some of the hotels have hot tubs and pools. Check before you go. You may also want to take a dip in some of the beautiful rivers.

6. Dress clothes optional. Our tour included two really nice restaurants. So if you like to dress up, go ahead. The one we ate at in the town of Chihuahua, it was Sunday afternoon and the families there were dressed. (It was also one of the single best meals I’ve ever had.)

7. Any special equipment for your laptop, cell phone etc. you can do some quick comparison shopping and get a good deal here. Everywhere we stayed had computer connection, but not always a computer. What was nice was the ones that did have computers and Internet let you get on the Internet without charge. They don’t do that on a cruise now, do they?

8. Check with your cell provider before you go about coverage. There were blackouts for us.

9. A guide. He can handle the luggage, the tickets, the lines, the local culture, the language and currency, getting through customs, and they know where the good places and the good water are. In the towns where we stopped, there was always a place to buy the things we needed or wanted, like bottled water. Hey! I needed a pony tail holder. They even had that! And at the local versions of Stop ‘n’ Go’s, we fell in love with Cremas.

10. Get insurance – if you’re driving in Mexico, and also check your health insurance to see if you’re covered in Mexico.

11. One last thing and you can get this on My Power Mall too -- Toilet paper. Yeah, you’ll see a lot of the locals getting on the train with a roll of TP. The restrooms were well-stocked (and clean), but it seems to be a tradition.

12. Lastly, enrich your experience by learning before you go. On LEARNING TROVE you can find videos about Mexico, and also introductory Spanish. If you’re taking kids with you, this will really add to their experience. Comprende? Actually one of the hidden bonuses about this trip is that your kids may see the Milky Way for the first time in their lives. There’s a great educational video about the Milky Way on Learning Trove. Just go HERE and enter “Milky Way.” It may be the first time you have seen the Milky Way in many years, without realizing it. The stars at night are very visible. Great learning experience for the kids.

I’d heard a lot about the Copper Canyon train ride. It’s one of those trips that exceeded my expectations. It helps to be well-prepared, so I hope these tips help you.

©Join MyPowerMall, http://www.excideals.com/, dedicated to the power of online shopping. There is absolutely no cost to you, there are 1000+ stores and millions of products you need, you earn shopping rebates on every purchase you and your team make, and 6.5% of corp profits go to One-Child-At-A-Time. Join, get others to join, make your life easier, save time, have opportunity to earn unlimited passive income from a fr** online business. Got questions? Email Mel, mailto:rakemet@hotmail.com .

Emotional Intelligence and Success in Business

People who consider emotional intelligence to be a "soft" skill are taking a second look. It can lead to hard results, of the kind you look for in business.

Experts argue that E.I. directly impacts productivity and profits. For example: Richard Boyatzis, professor and chairman of the organizational behavior department at Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland, assessed the senior partners in a multinational consultancy and found that those who exhibited E.I. competencies more frequently delivered over $1 million more in annual profits from their accounts than did other senior partners.

From "Management Skills," http://www.cio.com/

The best way to 'learn' emotional intelligence, to increase yours, is coaching. You can't just read about it, and if you knew how to put it in to practice, you would already be doing that because the results are so beneficial.

Management Skills: Emotional Intelligence is not just for women

Sensitivity in the Office? We've come a long way since this article was written in 2003, and I'm talking as much about "the media" as about the subject of the article.
Management Skills: Are You the Strong, Sensitive Type? - CIO.com - Business Technology Leadership

Writes Meredith Levinson:

Like you, Alan Hughes believes employees should check their personal problems at the door when they enter the office. But Hughes, CIO of GE Commercial Distribution Finance in St. Louis, also realizes that doing so is not always realistic. "We all go through different crises in our lives. They're distractions. You can't help but bring them to work, either consciously or
subconsciously," he says.

The article talks about one of Hughes' employees who was going through a divorce. (Um,
what's the "distraction" from what, between a marriage and work?)

The article goes on to say how well Hughes handled the employee in this case.

The article then mentions and defines Emotional Intelligence (E.I.). Wendy Alfus Rothman, president of The Wenroth Group, a human resources consultancy in New York City, is quoted, and she says: "E.I. is not just for women."

"It is real intelligence," she says.

And you bet it's not "just for women." "It is real intelligence," Rothman is quoted as saying.

And what can be more distracting in an office than a man who can't control his temper, or has no empathy for others, since communication is based on empathy as well as logic, facts, and cognitive intelligence. It is what you say, it's how you say it ... including being able to read nonverbal communication, and to manage your own nonverbal communication.

If you must leave a place that you loved

A poem today, for those of you who are leaving some place or something behind that was once dear to you ...

I have learned that if you must leave a place
That you have lived in and loved,
And where all of your yesterdays are buried deep -
Leave it any way except slow;
Leave it the fastest way you can.
Never turn back and believe that an hour you remember
Is a better hour because it is dead.
Past years seem safe ones, vanquished ones,
While the future lives in a cloud, formidable from a distance.
The cloud clears though, as you enter it.
I have learned this, but like everyone,
I learned it late.

Beryl Markham, 1902-1986

Keep movin'! If you'd like coaching on a 'move,' let me know.

Idealism. Good thing? Bad thing?

"It is only when we relinquish the ideal that the truly transformed person emerges: inspired and uninspired; secure and insecure; joyous and solemn; wise and stupid; independent and dependent; imperfect still, but transformed anew again, and still again."
(Sara Strand)

The energy is really good for doing this work. Coaching, remember, moves you from where you are going forward, and is inherently tranformational.

If you didn't have a perfect childhood, if you live in an imperfect world, if you've been shafted by a 'friend' or bullied by a co-worker, if you've had setbacks and rejections and so forth ... well that was then and this is now.

Here are some tips excerpted and paraphrased from one of the gurus in the field of effectiveness, Peter Drucker.
I use this in coaching.

Effective people:

Ask what needs to be done
Ask what is right for this situation, these prople, this project or enterprise.
Develop action plans and then carry them out.
Take responsibility for decisions.
Take responsibility for communicating.
Focus on opportunities rather than problems. (Ask any marathon runner -- keep your eye on the goal, not on the hurdles)
Run productive meetings (which means only when needed. As my buddy Mr. Mafioso says, meetings aren't to schmooz and feel good. Call a meeting only if a decision needs to be made. Your folks will appreciate this. I get so much email about this -- people hate meetings that waste their time and serve no purpose.)

Intentionality. It's all about the emotional intelligence competency of Intentionality.

Consider it your job this month to be effective. Effectiveness can be learned. I teach it.
For coaching - sdunn@susandunn.cc, 817-734-1471.
Credit cards, PayPal, personal checks.

It's time to get back to school!!

Speaking of learning ... from the movie, "Copper Canyon"

Johnny Carter: When you kill a man, he dies just as bad or just as stupid as the moment when you put the bullet in him. If you let him live, he's still got a chance to learn things.
Deputy Lane Travis: Well, that's smart... provided he learns the right things.

This undoubtedly pertains to emotional intelligence things!
Get on it! Times a'wastin'.

Customer Relations Work and Emotional Intelligence

I'll be doing a series of customer service stress management and emotional intelligence training for a major organization in September. This is stressful work and to succeed, even to survive, you have to have high EQ, or emotional intelligence.

As this article Customer Experience Podcast #5: Intrapersonal QBC points out, customer relations and sales, by phone particularly, is a very stress job that requires good emotional intelligence skills. "The emotional rollercoaster of sales and customer service presents a constant challenge to the individual to respond appropriately in all cases," says the article.

They sign intrapersonal skills such as self-regard, emotional self-awareness, assertiveness and so forth.

For instance:

Self Regard. People with higher levels of self-regard have a track record of success, and they attribute that success to themselves. That confidence rubs off on the customer, who gets the feeling that they are in good hands. By contrast, someone with poor self-regard presents both themselves, and the brand they represent, in a poor light.

Self Awareness. The ability to recognise one’s own emotional state is critical in enabling the indivudual [sic] to moderate that state as circumstances demand.

That means not just recognizing emotions, but being able to tell when you are reaching your tipping point, and knowing why. It may be that you aren't really listening to the customer, or it could be that you're too tired or too hot. When you're uncomfortable physically, it can set your emotional states higher. Like when you come home from a hard day at work and are tired, and something comes up with the kids.

This may seem obvious but you might say, "Well anyone would get mad at something like this." With The EQ course you can learn to modulate the states, hopefully getting angry more slowly, staying thess a shorter time and having it be less intense, getting out of it quicker, and recovering faster. It's about modulating your emotions.

Emotional intelligence is very important in customer relations work. In fact it accounts for about 80% of your success in an endeavor. The EQ COURSE raises your emotional intelligence, your EQ. It's interactive, on the Internet and self-paced, with feedback. It is consistently rated #1. Check it out -- www.susandunn.cc/EQcourse.htm .

What price your future success?

Is it Emotionally Intelligent to Own a Pet?

Is it emotionally intelligent to own a pet?
Help your doctor out by getting a cat or dog??

Take a look at this site and read some of the scientific evidence:

Pet Therapy, Healthy Reasons To Have A Pet, therapeutic use of Pets, Benefits of Pet Therapy, holisticonline.com
From the article:

Seniors who own dogs go to the doctor less than those who do not.

In a study of 100 Medicare patients, even the most highly stressed dog owners in the study has 21 percent fewer physician's contacts than non-dog owners. (Siegel, 1990).

Pet owners have lower blood pressure. (Friedman, 1983, Anderson 1992).

A recent study, from the State University of New York at Buffalo, looked at male and female stockbrokers already taking medication to control high blood pressure. Researchers say those with a pet nearby during stressful encounters experienced half the increase in blood pressure as those who did not own a pet.

Lead author, Dr. Karen Allen, calls the results "dramatic and significant." She says while medication can lower blood pressure, it cannot relieve stress and that can force blood pressure back up. The research team says it chose a dog or cat for each stockbroker at the beginning of the study and soon the study participants became very attached to their pets.

Six months later, Allen says, many of the stockbrokers in the medication-only control group went out and got themselves a pet.

Pet owners have lower triglyceride and cholesterol levels than non-owners (Anderson, 1992).

Lots of good stuff in this article about emotional intelligence! It's emotionally intelligent to own a pet, it looks like.

Daniel Kobialka Talks about Emotional Intelligence

The Emotional Intelligence of Music: A Note for the Back-to-Schoolers

"Music to Motivate, Accelerate and Support Learning" is the article appearing on the website of reknowned violinist Daniel Kobialka: Daniel Kobialka Music

And a fitting topic it is, as we approach the beginning of another school year, though it's all the same to us lifetime learners. (We know it contributes to the emotional intelligence competency of resilience.)

On Kobialka's website: "I found years ago that music creates a healing environment. I find Kobialka's to be the best available." -Dr. Bernie Siegel.

Kobialka admits that as he prepares to write about music and learning, he is thinking about emotional intelligence.

From the article:

One concept that keeps popping up in articles and books about the subject, is how music can strengthen emotional intelligence. Daniel Goleman wrote a book on the subject in 1995, and since then there's been quite a buzz around the ideas. In fact, when the Harvard Business Review published an article on emotional intelligence two years ago, it attracted more readers than any other article published in HBR in the last 40 years! **Now that's buzz!

Although, like other "pop concepts" there has been considerable malignment, the idea has firm roots in science. Basically, there is scientific acceptance that there are cognitive (relating to thinking and the brain) and non-cognitive (everything else) intelligences. ... If we define success as a person's ability to act purposefully, think rationally, and deal effectively with his environment, then we immediately realize that how he, his coworkers, and his boss feel also impact the results he is able to achieve.

Kobialka lists some of the emotional intelligence competencies, noting how they inter-relate. He concludes:

"You can see how music that stimulates attention, calms anxiety, tempers over-exuberance, and creates happiness would also motivate, support and accelerate learning."

For more about music and emotional intelligence, see www.susandunn.cc/vivoperlei.htm. Now a coincidence that it is dedicated to a physician and healer, Dr. John J. Alifano, a pianist and composer.

**Get with the buzz - though as you can tell, this is far from the fad du jour. Coaching, Internet courses and ebooks to learn more about emotional intelligence and "ace the EQ exam." 817-734-1471, sdunn@susandunn.cc .

TRAIN TRIP COPPER CANYON

TRAIN TRIP TO COPPER CANYON

I'm on MySpace - take a look for today's word on Emotional Intelligence.
http://blog.myspace.com/susandunncoach

The big news is that I just got back from my great vacation taking the Copper Canyon train ride in Mexico.



Here are the Taramuhara Indians selling their wares at the Divisadero train stop. This is where 3 canyons converage. This is the biggest canyon system in the world, 7x bigger than the Grand Canyon in the US - and no lines, not a lot of people. The train crosses an elevation of 7,000 feet, involving something like 70 tunnels and 36 bridges. Those bridges are something else again!



You can hang out the doors between cards to take great photographs. I talked to tourists from Germany, France, Italy, Mexico and the US.

Here is the chapel in the mission at Cerocahui. Beautiful. They have a boarding school there for the Tarahumara Indian girls, and also a day school.



We got on at Chihuahua and then rode to El Fuerte, stopping along the way because the train isn't a sleeper. We stayed at Paraiso del Oso in Cerachui, Mission Tarahumara near Bahuichivo train stop, and Hotel Torres del Fuerte. The wonder, Sr. Torres, had been riding on the train with us. He and his wife converted the hotel from their colonial style home. We loved the mamma duckling in the courtyard, with her 10 little ones!

We visited the Pancho Villa museum. Viva Barranca de Cobre!

One of the best vacations I've ever had.

Pilots Need Emotional Intelligence

PILOTS BEING TESTED FOR THEIR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE?

"You can't learn it in the classroom like your IQ stuff," says Dr. Stein, in an article about pilots and emotional intelligence. "To learn emotional skills, you've got to go out there and practise them in the real world. You've got to interact with people and think about how that interaction goes..." Some people have even brought in coaches to help them improve their EQ," he adds.

DO pilots need to have Emotional Intelligence? Yes, they do, we find out in an article called emotional workplace -- and indeed any workplace is "emotional." The funniest question I've been asked on my expert column was, "Do you think emotions belong in the workplace?" Hmmm. It doesn't matter what my opinion is -- or yours either, with all due respect -- because emotions are in the workplace whether you like it or not, like the sun in the sky.

And you must now how to deal with emotions in an intelligence manner in order to succeed -- yours, theirs, ours, his and hers. This becomes increasingly complex in the current multicultural scene many people work in.

From the article

Do you say what you think even if it upsets someone? Do you ask people for help if a task seems too hard? Do you find it hard to enjoy life? Are you happy? At your next job interview, it might be your inner self the employer is most interested in, not what's listed on your resume or stored in your brain. While experience and IQ opened doors in the past, organizations from Air Canada, American Express and Deloitte to the U.S. Air Force, are looking at EQ -- emotional intelligence -- as a key indicator of a person's success at work. We've all heard of IQ, but what is EQ?

"Emotional intelligence is your ability to be aware of your emotions, to manage them, to be aware of the emotions of the people around you and to manage those to some degree as well," says clinical psychologist Steven Stein... When you have emotionally intelligent leaders, managers and people, things go better."

Dismissed by some back then as a fad, Dr. Stein says there has been renewed
interest in the field today as companies recognize the value of hiring and promoting emotionally superior workers, especially with the increased importance placed on leadership, team work and office culture.

"People with higher emotional skills are more able to get help and muster teams, they're able to be seen more as leaders and are more likely to be put in leadership positions. They get promoted faster," he says. Indeed, while IQ might get a person through the door, success is largely a matter of EQ, says Dr. Stein. "People often get hired because of their IQ. But what happens once you're hired is, the ones who do better on the job are usually the ones with the higher EQ," he says.

Air Canada has used an EQ assessment on 650 new pilots hired since 2005.

"An airline captain is ... a team leader. He's overseeing the cockpit crew, the flight deck crew as well as the cabin crew. And he's not only interacting with the other crew members but also with other departments within the airline," says Capt. Dave Legge, vice-president of flight operations. "Obviously, if you have to interact well
with other people, these are instruments that we can use during the selection process to identify people that have these enhanced skills," he says.

Read full article here: The emotional workplace

To find out what your EQ is, take THE EQ MAP. Then get coaching. As the article says, you can't learn it just from a book.

Please note: The article ends with something about the coach helping them tell how they're feeling during different points in the day. EQ coaches do a lot more than that. Come find out! 817-734-1471, sdunn@susandunn.cc, http://www.susandunn.cc/ .

From Disturbed High Schooler to College Killer - WSJ.com

From Disturbed High Schooler to College Killer - WSJ.com

From this article about a tragedy:

Mr. Pavela also says colleges increasingly ask essay questions on applications to try to shed light on a candidate's "emotional intelligence." The Massachusetts Institute of Technology tells applicants it wants to know how they "bring balance" to their lives and asks them to "tell us about something you do simply for the pleasure of it."

This Wall Street Journal article attempts to enravel the deatils of Mr. Cho's experiences in school, and what else might have been done to help this desperate and mute young man, and avoid this tragedy which ultimately involved the lives of so many.

From the article:

Details of Mr. Cho's experience in special education, which are only now coming to light, suggest that high schools may be paying too much attention to the academic advancement of bright but troubled students and not enough to their emotional disorders. "The focus is, 'What do we need to do to help him get through school?' " says Dewey Cornell, a clinical psychologist and professor of education at the University of Virginia.

It is difficult to comment on this story. It's the continuing story of students who are bright academically who fail somewhere along the line to acquire emotional intelligence. That is isn't just about getting through school, there is a life wrapped around that school. Any comment seems glib.

Such a waste. Such a terrible waste -- of many lives.

Cancer Update and Emotional Intelligence

Cancer Update

Anger kills. Resentment is anger on steroids. Depression is anger "without the enthusiasm." Hostility is never leaving the toxic environment.

When you read this cancer update you will understand that your immune system is your health. 5 minutes of anger suppresses your immune system for up to 8 hours. Does a depressed or hostile person ever leave the angry state? You tell me.

But how do you deal with anger when there's so much out there that can make you angry? Do you really have a choice? Traffic jams, teenagers, irritating cell phones, canceled flights, difficult bosses? There are answers in THE EQ COURSE. You have a choice about your emotional reaction. This interactive Internet course is about the cost of two massages (heavenly while it lasts), two therapy sessions (where you're supposed to talk about the things that have made you angry in the past, like your childhood or failed married, which common sense would tell you brings up more anger), or two tickets to a movie and a fine dinner (which you won't enjoy) -- and THE EQ COURSE is likely to do more good and last a lot longer. Most people call emotional intelligence "the missing piece."

When you read this, you'll also see why I like Arbonne's Get Well Soon Supplement. The name sort of assumes some of things addressed here.

Here is a Cancer Update attributed to various institutions, none of which could be confirmed, but it is not (according to snopes) from Johns Hopkins. Need I say this is not medical advice? Medical advice comes from a licensed physician! See if this resonates for you. Then take action for your wellness.

1. Every person has cancer cells in the body.

These cancer cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.

2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person's lifetime.

3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumors.

4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastro-intestinal tract, etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size.However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor destruction.

9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various
kinds of infections and complications.

10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.

11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply. Cancer cells feed on: [negative emotions and...]:

• (a) Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like ExtraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in color.Better alternative is Bragg's Aminos or sea salt.b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract.
• (b) Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soya milk cancer cells are being starved.
• (c) Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.
• (d) A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains,seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhancegrowth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).
• (e) Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine. Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrified and leads to more toxic buildup.

13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc. - try MyArbonne (Get Well Soon dietary supplement) to enable the body's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.

15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger, unforgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.

16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.

Want to learn more about anger and how to manage it? 817-734-1471. Some people call for a read from time. Take THE EQ COURSE. Get Well Soon Dietary Supplement here - and others.

OpinionJournal - Taste

OpinionJournal - Taste

Professors on the Battlefield
Where the warfare is more than just academic.
BY EVAN R. GOLDSTEIN

Great article about multicultural - blending academicians with the military in understanding a foreign culture. Nice in the face of the current "anti-intellectualism." The military is bringing "intellectuals" (i.e., college professors) in to help out.

Excerpts:

The terms of this relationship are most evident in the new Counterinsurgency
Field Manual. In the face of a gruesomely persistent Iraqi insurgency, Gen.
Petraeus [commander of the multinational forces in Iraq. Gen. Petraeus, who
holds a doctorate from Princeton University in international relations] was
charged with revamping the outdated counterinsurgency doctrine. In an
unprecedented collaboration, he reached out to Sarah Sewall, who directs the
Carr Center for Human Rights Policy at Harvard University, to help him
organize a vetting session of the draft manual at Fort Leavenworth in Kansas.

Journalists, human-rights activists, academics and members of the armed forces exchanged ideas about how to make the doctrine more effective and more humane.

In the Human Terrain System (what terminology! - how about emotional intelligence and multicultural EQ?), Marcus Griffin, a professor of anthropology at Christopher Newport University in Newport News, Va. has been sent to assist the military in Afghanistan and Iraq, where he, and others 'professors' serve as "cultural advisers" to brigade commanders. Griffin's job is to shed some light on the local culture-- "thereby diminishing the risk that U.S. forces unwittingly offend Iraqi sensibilities...he can improve Iraqi and American lives.

Hopefully he includes emotional intelligence. It's one thing to know anthropologically the people are different; another, to know what to do about it, and how.

Lastly, in a blog article, Tom Hayden is cited -- "a bizarre conception of the role of scholars in American life: that they should be held to a priestly standard of ethical purity.

"Are academics so much purer than anybody else that we can't ever be in
situations where we are confronting tough ethical choices?" asks Noah Feldman, a
professor of law at Harvard who briefly, in 2003, was an adviser to the
Coalition Provisional Authority. "If academics didn't get involved with these
kinds of difficult questions, maybe all that would be left is a department of
Kantian philosophy," he jokes. "Then we would be pure, but we would be
irrelevant."

Increase your emotional intelligence and multicultural awareness with THE EQ COURSE and "Emotional Intelligence and Multicultural Awareness." Useful in your own particular war zone! :-)

Is Emotional Intelligence Just the Fad du Jour?

Is Emotional Intelligence Just the Fad du Jour?

OR IS IT THE KEY (Click on link to read full article)

QUOTES FROM AROUND THE WORLD

“Top leaders are getting in touch with their emotions and those of their staff as intuition and emotional intelligence become the hottest management buzzwords.” (Australia)

“Let me leave you with the million Ringgit question,” writes a Malaysian consultant. “Is it imperative to measure our emotional intelligence and take appropriate steps to bridge our EI gaps? Only you can decide. I rest the case with you.”

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN EQ IS LOW?

It’s expensive in terms of lost money, opportunity, time, relationships, promotions, careers, projects, goals, accomplishments, self-esteem, marriages, physical and emotional health, and even life.

– 75% of careers are derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies
– 70% of the reasons why customers and clients are lost are EQ-related
– 50% of time wasted in business is due to lack of trust
– Seniors get worse in hospitals when the physical therapists don’t engage with them
– Counseling clients fail to change because their counselors lack empathy or optimism
– 50% of marriages fail
– Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death for youths aged 15-24 in the US
– Think this is because of industrialized society? Think again. Samoa has the highest suicide rate in the world.
– Impulsive boys are 3-6x as likely to be violent adolescents
– Low levels of empathy predict poor school performance
– Gifted children manifest a near “blindness” to social cues which leads to isolated and sad childhoods
– Doctors with poor EQ skills get sued more
– 75-90% of visits to primary care physicians in the US are due to stress-related problems
– Pessimists live shorter, unhealthier, unhappier, lives, and are less likely to achieve their potential than optimists
– College students in a study with the same IQ and GPA who did not write down their career goals with Intentionality were 50% less successful 15 years later
– Perfectionism is potent. Perfectionists produce better work, get better grades, get enormous positive feedback. Perfectionists also have a markedly higher suicide rate.

Is Sex a Cure for Depression

Is Sex a Cure for Depression? (sounds like a line, doesn't it)

Sex is a beauty treatment ... Lovemaking can burn up calories ...

Did you get this one in your email?

Dr. Dorree Lynn think there might be something to it. She received it from Radio Talk show host, Jim Bohannon, http://www.jimnotalk.com/.

Assuming there' s a relationship around it, it's emotionally intelligent. Statistics show that married men are the happiest (the single women, then married women, then single men). Isolation (bsence of emotional connection) is harder on our health than smoking, obesity and high blood pressure combined.

"It happens to be as good a medical and psychological prescription as I know," Dr. Lynn says. "It's pretty valid. "

Well here it is!

1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.
2. Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that romantic dinner.
3. Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up. It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. It' s more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps, and you don't need special sneakers!
4. Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria leaving you with a feeling of well-being.
5. The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy!
6. Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE THAN VALIUM.
7. Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up.

DO YOU KEEP WALKING INTO THE BLADE OF A FAN?
Try the DIFFICULT PEOPLE course. It's on the Internet. It's interactive. It's saving people!! Click HERE to order. Just $29.95, less than a movie and it's effects last a lot longer.

BE KIND. Everyone you know is going through something harder than you can even imagine.

Are you trying to get a book published?

In today's mailbag ...

Eva Shaw, author of over 70 books submitted her first book 49 times before she found a publisher.

JK. Rowling? 29 times - and she had a friend in the business.

Don't give up!

***** Save and repeat for when I get bummed after dozens of my own rejections ****

Good advice, coach!

Emotional Intelligence Test

Emotional Intelligence is really about using all your brain - whole-brained thinking, and balanced living. It's being able to make choices where emotional things are involved, and knowing whether what you're looking at is "a thinking thing" or a "feeling thing."

How Smart Are Your Emotions? This test rates your ability to regulate your emotions in a healthy and balanced manner. www.Assessment.com

Find out about your emotional intelligence. Then call for some coaching. What's really neat about EQ is that you can improve yours. You can't move your IQ, but you can develop and improve your EQ all the time. Get ahead of the game. Start now.

Politicians should go for the gut to win?

Democrats must go for gut against GOP

Emotional Intelligence applied to Politics. Lack of Emotional Intelligence is why the Democrafts keep losing elections.

CONSIDER THIS HYPOTHETICAL begins Dick Polman, columnist for the Philadelphia Inquirer. Always an emotionally intelligent way to begin a potentially emotional topic -- like why the Democrats lose.

The Triune brain and its evolution. "Consider this hypothetical."

"Democrats must go for the gut against GOP," Polman and adds:

"But that is not what Democrats do.They are cerebral by nature. They dislike emotional appeals. They fear that if they get too pugnacious, some voters might get mad. But as clinical psychologist and political consultant Drew Westen argues in his new book The Political Brain, this fear of gut-level combat is a big reason the Democratic Party keeps losing national elections." Westen's book is subtitled "The Role of Emotion in Deciding the Fate of the Nation."

According to Polman, Westen studies the brain as a scientist and he says "its emotional properties are 'millions of years older' than its reasoning properties. Therefore, he argues, the Democrats should stop thinking they can win simply by appealing to the intellect. It’s not only bad politics, it’s bad neurology. He writes: “The political brain is an emotional brain. It is not a dispassionate calculating machine. ,."

So he is talking about emotional intelligence - using all parts of the triune brain. Political or otherwise, no appeal to the intellect works as well as something "crafted as a visceral message that aims for the gut and engages the emotions."

Emotional intelligence is about using all of your brain for the best results.

He ends with what Adlai Stevenson said in 1956. The Democratic candidate was leaving a rally when a woman told him, “Every thinking person will be voting for you.” He replied: “Madam, that is not enough. I need a majority.”

AGING has a lot to do with your emotional intelligence. LISTEN UP GIRL FRIEND!

Today we look at -- Should You Live in a Retirement Community (or Let Your Mother)? Actually what we're looking at is aging well.
How to age well is quite the topic these days as medicine extends our lifespans. One thing that’s often debated is whether one should live in a retirement community or not.

This is so much a matter of personal preference. You can be happy and have good experiences anywhere (or not). The main thing is that you keep going and growing. In my coaching practice, I have many people over the age of 60. Let me share some of the things I’ve learned.

Who you hang with matters a lot at any time in life. A retirement community can give you commiseration for things – someone to talk with about Vietnam, and what’s wrong with the government, and what helps arthritis. More importantly, people who can share your frustration. Like going shopping and having to wade through 50 cheese choices instead of 3. People who, when the discussion turns to the fact that there may be social security in 20 years, remember the time before there was social security and know that life goes on – which is irritating for youngsters to hear. That sort of thing, and you should always keep people around who share your history

However, this can be too much of a good thing. It is healthy at any time in life to associate with people who are very different from you—in age and in every other way. I coach emotional intelligence, I should add, and we’re talking here about things that research has shown help us age better.

There’s the famous “new toys, new playmates” study with the mice. The ones who were given a steady supply of new and stimulating toys in their cages, and got to meet new little mice did a lot better. So if you live in a retirement community, be sure you get out of it quite often.

You see, we cannot form new brain cells as we age, but we can form new neuronal connections, and to do this, we need new experiences. Take the analogy of marriage. It’s great to be in love and have a great spouse. However, to keep the relationship alive and interesting, you both need to go out and meet new people and do new things, and bring that back to the relationship.

So wherever you choose to live, make sure you keep going – mentally, physically and emotionally. Learning something new is one of the best things you can do. I mean SO new that you’re totally lost. Where you can feel the brain working to try and get around it, and not really having anything to hang it on. I mean learning to play the violin when you are (or were) a physics professor. Or getting a job if you never worked outside the home. Or moving to a new place where you have to learn how to get around on the highways. If you’re reading this with a parent in mind, encourage this as well. Keep asking, “What’s new?”

One reason people grow through crises is because it’s something you can’t get your mind around. Some people, of course, do not GROW through a crisis, they just GET through it and then, sometimes, harden and grow brittle. Things are not going to adjust to YOU, you must adjust to THEM. You can learn resilience, BTW, it’s an emotional intelligence competency, as is the sort of frustration tolerance it takes to sit in the back of the classroom and know nothing at all. Now there’s a new experience for a senior! Best thing in the world.

Also pay close attention to where you go for counsel. Whether it’s a coach, therapist, or clergy, don’t ever stick with someone who seems to have no ideas or enthusiasm for you and your life, or who doesn’t keep pushing you to your growing edge. You always have a growing edge, no matter how old you are. Unless you decide you don’t, in which case you are right! Check out Yvonne Dowlen, figure skating at the age of 80+: http://www.dailyherald.com/galleries/benskate/index.HTML. “If you don’t move,” she says, “you can’t move.” This applies to the mental and the emotional as well as the physical. This woman has real spirit. She had a car accident and her doctor told her to give up skating and she took that as a challenge. She attributes her health to exercise and supplements. (Check out the great supplements at MyArbonne.

Good role models? Oh, there are the obvious ones, like Art Linkletter, James Brown, Jack Lalanne, Luciano Pavarotti and Colonel Sanders, but that’s like looking at movie stars. There are things we know about their lives, and things we don’t and they sort of live on another plane anyway.

Let me share with you some real life examples, some real life heroes. They’re the best kind. Names and a few details changed for confidentiality.

Julie is 63. She tore a core muscle last year and had some bad months where she could hardly walk, but she was determined to get back to her – yes – rollerblading, and she is. She also became fluent in Russian and German in the past 5 years.

Maureen lost her adult son when she was 60. This might crater a person, and who would blame them. Instead Maureen moved to a big city and got a job downtown, with a 4 hour commute in some of this nation’s worst traffic and in a new field. She says it’s keeping her young.

Raymond, a retired math professor is 70 and his wife died last year. He is enthusiastically looking on the Internet sites and dating. He travels to one of his kids’ homes every month, and just got back from an Alaskan cruise – his 10th .

Annie, 55, lost her husband 5 years ago and went into a shell. Well not with good coaching you don’t! With encouragement, she’s over her fibromyalgia, started playing tennis again and got back into her size 6s. She’s dating on the Internet and just bought a new home.

On my last river cruise to Russia was Amanda, 87 years old, on her own. She said she hadn’t had time to before then. She fell in Moscow, and got some bandages but she refused to even talk about it, just kept smiling. She said she was there to have a good time, and wanted the rest of us to. What a woman! After the 2-week cruise, she was staying over in St. Petersburg for 2 weeks at a hotel.

Nancy is over 60 and speaks on cruises. Like many people of an age, she knows a lot and always has topics of interest. She stays current on the Internet. She pays a small per diem, and her companion travels free. This makes her very popular! No, she’s not a retired college professor, she’s just a dynamic and great speaker with the wealth of information one can have at this age.

Edward, 85, was someone I trained to be a coach. Coaching is a great late-in-life profession because clients come to you and want your advice and listen to you, good clients that is. Edward said he felt wanted and needed and that his own kids wouldn’t listen to him, so this was fun! And BTW, he had to learn how to do a website. Not a problem to this guy!

Louise is 86. She tells me, "Invite me. If its a dog fight, invite me, or cleaning your garage. I like to get out!"

One last one, Peter the successful attorney, 60. He signed up for a film course and just made his first movie. It’s very artsy. “I needed that,” he said.

60 is the new 40, so 80 must be the new 60. Wherever you decide to live, keep yourself surrounded by the good old things, but be sure and give yourself a nice supply of new playmates, new experiences, and new toys.

Stretch your brain the THE EQ COURSE. Your brain will thank you for it, over and over again.

Want coaching?? (Yes I'm also a "retirement coach.") Call 817-734-1471 or mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc .

When a Physician Makes an Error

Emotional intelligence makes you better able to handle stress and more resilient. IF there's anything a physician needs, it's that.

Doctors makes mistakes. They react emotionally when they do.

In what purports to be the first study on this, the Joint Commission Journal on Quality and Patient Safety reported "The Emotional Impact of Medical Errors on Practicing Physicians in the United States and Canada" this month. (See article here: Study Indicates Physicians Experience Stress Following Medical Errors on Yahoo! News )

Of course the pressure in this life-and-death field is tremendous to NEVER make an error. It draws perfectionists and highly competent individuals, and if you are being cared for by a physician you would say -- I should hope so. I was married to a doctor and I know what they go through.

I can miss an appointment with a client. You can make a mistake and send the check to the wrong person. Nancy over there can cut some one's hair too short. Tom can mess up someone's bill. A cop can cuff the wrong person and a college professor can cite the wrong date or theory. All these mistakes can be corrected. But for a doctor -- procedures, diagnostics, treatment -- make a mistake and someone dies. Actually it's usually called "an error."

The errors of omission are just as potentially fatal as the errors of commission. When I worked with a group concerned with medical ethics, there was a case where a patient had been "left in the basement of the hospital" on the way for some test, and expired there.

That sort of responsiblity is understood in the field, but that doesn't make it any easier.

According to the study, 80% of physicians expressed a desire for help after such an incident, but found there were many barriers.

"Counseling needs to be made available to patients and health care professionals so that everyone involved with errors receives the support they need," said Waterman, who led the study.

Notable findings. After a mistake, physicians reported:

• increased anxiety about future errors (61 percent),
  
• loss of confidence (44 percent),


• sleeping difficulties (42 percent),


• reduced job satisfaction (42 percent),


• harm to their reputation (13 percent) following errors

Only 18 percent of physicians surveyed had received education or training in disclosure of errors, and 86 percent expressed interest in such education or training.

While some physicians thought counseling after-the-fact would help, 35% did not think so. 25% were concerned about their malpractice insurance costs going up if they sought counseling, negative peer reactions, lack of time to seek services.

RESILIENCE

Making mistakes and recovering from them is about resilience, an emotional intelligence competency. It means being able to bounce back from adverse events, to recover and continue to move forward. As I say in my EQ and Resilience courses, the good news is you will get lots of practice. That is also the bad news.

Why not emotional intelligence training? I have coached physicians who were also burnt out from listening to other people's problems all day, trying to sort through the approximate language and high-level emotions, having to deny drugs, and having to tell someone a bad diagnosis.

Part of medicine is factual and a science. Part of medicine is emotional and an art and this has largely been ignored in medical training.

Emotional intelligence is a pro-active way of dealing with stress. You know that stress is going to happen, and if you study resilience and emotional intelligence, you can prepare yourself. It's the emotionally intelligent thing to do, because bad things happen to good people, and good people also make mistakes.

Football Requires Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is as essential to winning at sports as it is to winning in everything else in life. Whether you're after the Big Win in career, school, marriage, aging, stress, or retirement ... IQ gets you through school. EQ (emotional intelligence) gets you through life. And the good news is that emotional intelligence can be learned.

"EQ in sports?" you say.

Ever watch someone in a tennis match 'psych out' the opponent? Long time-outs, arguing about calls, taking too long to serve, acting sick or injured, anything to prolong, distract ... or serving with strange sounds?

One of the ways I increased my understanding of emotional intelligence so I could teach it to others, was accompanying my cousin, the tennis pro, to matches. "It's a head game," he would tell me. Well, it's an emotional game, too. If you watch teenagers play, you see clearly that until and unless they can control their emotions, they are going to lose matches they should have won. Their emotional reactions -- their weaknesses -- will be studied by their opponents and used against them, just as surely as they'll learn where to place the serve. It's a game of skill, and part of the skill is identifying and using the other's weaknesses.

Well latest on the emotional intelligence bandwagon is the Kentucky State University football team. They're working with Dr. Dennis Rader, a professor at KSU, who says he's not a sports psychologist but an emotional intelligence coach.

Wonder if he's gotten his EQ coach certification** yet ...

I've trained and certified EQ coaches with many different backgrounds, who plan to use it in many various ways. An MBA who spcializes in business communication. An equine specialist who teaches EQ through horses. A therapist who wanted to add emotional intelligernce to her mix. A manager who just knew she needed it. A minister who had been asked to prepare himself to teach emotional intelligence at seminary. An entrepreneur who wanted to be a coach and knew that emotional intelligence applied to any problem, and held the solution to any issue a coaching client could present. And I've trained and certified coaches all over the world - Malaysia, the Philippines, UK, Scotland, Wales, Beijing, India ... all over the US, of course.

Head football coach Fred Farrier's football team is still working toward winning its first Southern Intercollegiate Athletic Conference championship (see article here: State-Journal.com http://www.state-journal.com/news/article/2305711) and the coach felt workshops would assist the team to overcome barriers and achieve success, so started to work with Dr. Rader. Coach Farrier is quoted in the article as saying, "We wanted to try to help our team find a way to finish projects and work around obstacles. We felt like if we were able to identify some of those issues we could work through those issues."

To read about the **coach certification program, go HERE (http://www.susandunn.cc/coach%20certification.htm)
Or email me. , or call me at 817-734-1471. It can be yours in 6 weeks or less.

Career and Business Success

Career success and business success depend upon the impression you make on others. We can't help instant judgments about people. You know how they say "you only get one first impression." That's why we work so hard on a first-date, a job interview, or a presentation to a company, and also our websites.

The first time someone sees you (or hears you), or their first glance at your website or resume or business card, they form an opinion.

It's human nature. The reptilian brain wants to keep us safe and so we scan quickly. It's known to be a "sloppy" system, because it quickly differentiates what can either harm or help you and after that, there isn't a lot of thinking. There's no refinement to it. It's "down and dirty."

Now with emotional intelligence, we try to take advantage of all 3 brains. You note the initial impression, take it under advisement, and then you think about it, with the neocortex, or feel about it, with the limbic brain, or both.

However, the initial impression is very powerful.

I happened upon this website, since it arrived in my google alerts. If you were looking for a coach would you contact these people? TGIM Work-Life!

Psychology Today: Ten Politically Incorrect Truths About Human Nature

Psychology Today: Ten Politically Incorrect Truths About Human Nature

Ten Politically Incorrect Truths about Human Nature appeared in Psychology Today, the work of Alan S. Miller Ph.D. and Satoshi Kanazawa Ph.D.

ISN'T THIS TRUTHS ABOUT OUR ANIMAL NATURE??

The findings are things like men are attracted to blond Barbie-types; humans are naturally polygamous; women benefit from polygyny, while men benefit from monogamy; most suicide bombers are Muslim; having sons reduces the likelihood of divorce; beautiful people have more daughters; Bill Gates and Paul McCartney have something in common with criminals (waning competitiveness); what Clinton did was “natural”, and men who harass women at work aren’t discriminating, they’re treating them like men--at last. Trivers-Willard theory included. Read full article here.

Some of these things are not just politically incorrect, they are things that many humans endeavor to avoid. They are wrong. And what they are 'wrong' to is our limbic brain and neocortex. We avoid them because we have emotional intelligence.

---Not all men leave their middle aged wives.
---Some people become their most creative and "competitive" in later years, in all fields: Goethe, Nancy Fenn, the Kentucky Colonel.
---When conditions in a country include things that favor suicide-bombing, the vast majority still say "no thanks" and/or emigrate to a country where conditions are more favorable to a good life.
---And some CEOs and alpha males don't get Neanderthal with men OR women in the workplace.

ISN'T THIS ABOUT OUR ANIMAL NATURE, our reptilian brains?

And hasn't most of our time on earth been about getting above the pure animal nature?
Civilized people have always tried to behave, well, not like animals.

Even the Pope comes around and apologizes for what is not just "politically incorrect," but plain out wrong. For missionary abuses aginst indigenous people of the South Pacific, for the persecution of Galileo Galilei (yes there was harassment in his workplace).

After all, it's is also a "truth" about our so-called "human nature" to kill what bothers you. It is the way that some of these alpha males have chosen to compete -- by wiping out whole countries. Just that the killing isn't mentioned, because that's really not politically correct.

We have 3 brains, and it's what makes us human. We are especially noted, as humans, for our neocortex -- the one that allows us to think about thinking. So while these things may be compelling from the reptilian brain, they need not be acted upon. In many cases it is best NOT to act on them. Just because it's in the range of possible behaviors available to you doesn't mean you have to do it, or should do it. Come on now.

It's fine to 'note' that you lust for gorgeous men who walk by. It's more emotionally intelligent, and more "human" (as opposed to opearing like an instinctively-functioning animal) to say 'so what?' and go back home to your husband whom you love and have made a committment to. For the Good Life.

Not all men want to marry a blond Barbie. They find a fine, loving brunette who might even be middle-aged, whom they know will make a good wife. It isn't all about the passing on of the genes. It's isn't all about the reptilian brain which was programmed eons ago.

It's time to crawl up out of the swamp, as it were. It isn't all about what your genes think would make your genes survive. i.e., IT ISN"T ALL ABOUT YOU.

Of course it's good to know that some people function mindlessly at this level so you can be prepared. EQ -- if something's likely to be used against you, it's good to know about it!

Intuition - How to get it, how to use it, why to want it

WHAT IS INTUITION - Get the book, Intuition and learn how to develop this important tool

When you trust yourself, you can trust your intuition.

Definition:
1. quick and ready insight
2. immediate apprehension or cognition; knowledge or conviction gained by intuition; the power or faculty of attaining to direct knowledge or cognition without evident rational thought and inference

Also known as "gut feeling" or "gut instinct" it is a way of knowing without knowing how you know. It's knowledge "without evident rational thought." It does not preclude reason, but rather work with it.

Corporations are even hiring Intuitionists.

Call it what you will -- it's an Emotional Intelligence competency -- a powerful decision-making, problem-solving, insight-giving tool that helps us get along better in the world.

It is faster and more sure than reason. You must learn to sepate it out from wishful thinking and paranoia, however. As I say in my ebook, if you can't manage your 'fear' and 'desire,' you can't rely on your intuition, because it will be faulty. How do you tell? Managing the emotions and self-awareness are the beginning. Then we tell you what steps to follow and give many exercises, proven to improve your intuition. When you can trust yourself, you can trust your intuition.

Philippe Jaroussky - the tone of an angel, the virtuosity of the Devil

Enjoy Philippe Jaroussky who won the French Lyric Artiste Award for 2007. Phillipe Jaroussky began as a violinist, then started singing. He is a soprano countertenor. Here he sings a beautiful Vivaldi aria. For more on Vivaldi, see CLUB VIVO PER LEI. He sings well with the strings. I love the plucking strings of Vivaldi, don't you?

'This young singer with the tone of an angel and the virtuosity of the Devil has come into the limelight in only a few years as the great new French vocal talent' - La Terrasse

Absolutely incredible, PHILIPPE JAROUSSKY, Vivaldi aria

Retribution, Retaliation, Re-attribution, Reality

THE MIDDLE EAST: Contribution of Basic Cognitive Errors to Cycles of Retribution

He Who Cast the First Stone Probably Didn’t the OpEd article by Daniel Gilbert, Harvard professor and author of "Stumbling on Happiness." Notes:

"He hit me first" provides an acceptable rationale for doing that which is otherwise forbidden. Both civil and religious law provide long lists of behaviors that are illegal or immoral — unless they are responses in kind, in which case they are perfectly fine...a punch thrown second is legally and morally different than a punch thrown first....That’s why participants in every one of the globe’s intractable conflicts — from Ireland to the Middle East — offer the even-numberedness of their punches as grounds for exculpation.The problem with the principle of even-numberedness is that people count differently...

In study conducted by William Swann @ Univ of TX, pairs of volunteers played the roles of world leaders who were trying to decide whether to initiate a nuclear strike. The first volunteer was asked to make an opening statement, the second volunteer was asked to respond, the first volunteer was asked to respond to the second, and so on.

At the end of the conversation, the volunteers were shown several of the statements that had been made and were asked to recall what had been said just before and just after each of them...
The results revealed an intriguing asymmetry: When volunteers were shown one of their own statements, they naturally remembered what had led them to say it. But when they were shown one of their conversation partner’s statements, they naturally remembered how they had responded to it...What seems like a grossly self-serving pattern of remembering is actually the product of two innocent facts. First, because our senses point outward, we can observe other people’s actions but not our own. Second, because mental life is a private affair, we can observe our own thoughts but not the thoughts of others.

Together, these facts suggest that our reasons for punching will always be more salient to us than the punches themselves — but that the opposite will be true of other people’s reasons and other people’s punches...

Examples aren’t hard to come by. Shiites seek revenge on Sunnis for the revenge they sought on Shiites; Irish Catholics retaliate against the Protestants who retaliated against them; and since 1948, it’s hard to think of any partisan in the Middle East who has done anything but play defense.

In each of these instances, people on one side claim that they are merely responding to provocation and dismiss the other side’s identical claim as disingenuous spin. But research suggests that these claims reflect genuinely different perceptions of the same bloody conversation.If the first principle of legitimate punching is that punches must be even-numbered, the second principle is that an even-numbered punch may be no more forceful than the odd-numbered punch that preceded it.

LEGITIMATE RETRIBUTION is meant to restore balance, and thus an eye for an eye is fair, but an eye for an eyelash is not. When the European Union condemned Israel for bombing Lebanon in retaliation for the kidnapping of two Israeli soldiers, it did not question Israel’s right to respond, but rather, its “disproportionate use of force.” It is O.K. to hit back, just not too hard.

Research shows that people have as much trouble applying the second principle as the first. In a study conducted by Sukhwinder Shergill and colleagues at University College London, pairs of volunteers were hooked up to a mechanical device that allowed each of them to exert pressure on the other volunteer’s fingers.

The researcher began the game by exerting a fixed amount of pressure on the first volunteer’s finger. The first volunteer was then asked to exert precisely the same amount of pressure on the second volunteer’s finger. The second volunteer was then asked to exert the same amount of pressure on the first volunteer’s finger. And so on.

The two volunteers took turns applying equal amounts of pressure to each other’s fingers while the researchers measured the actual amount of pressure they applied.

The results were striking. Although volunteers tried to respond to each other’s touches with equal force, they typically responded with about 40 percent more force than they had just experienced. Each time a volunteer was touched, he touched back harder, which led the other volunteer to touch back even harder. What began as a game of soft touches quickly became a game of moderate pokes and then hard prods, even though both volunteers were doing their level best to respond in kind.

Each volunteer was convinced that he was responding with equal force and that for some reason the other volunteer was escalating. Neither realized that the escalation was the natural byproduct of a neurological quirk that causes the pain we receive to seem more painful than the pain we produce, so we usually give more pain than we have received.

Research teaches us that our reasons and our pains are more palpable, more obvious and real, than are the reasons and pains of others. This leads to the escalation of mutual harm, to the illusion that others are solely responsible for it and to the belief that our actions are justifiable responses to theirs.

None of this is to deny the roles that hatred, intolerance, avarice and deceit play in human conflict. It is simply to say that basic principles of human psychology are important ingredients in this miserable stew. Until we learn to stop trusting everything our brains tell us about others — and to start trusting others themselves — there will continue to be tears and recriminations in the wayback .

Comments to the article included:

"The lesson is: Don't start it, because even fair-minded people will pay you back with some extra punishment that you richly deserve for breaching the peace. ..."

"I am a strong believer in the human capacity to use knowledge to modify our behavior in beneficial ways. So, it can only be hoped that these experiments will add to our store of self-knowledge and thus improve our decision-making process. ..."

Research also shows that the best marriages are those where the couple soothe one another in a conflict rather than escalating or agitating.

Now there's a BUDGET EQ COURSE. What's your excuse?

Cardiovascular Disease and Emotions

How many deaths today worldwide? How many births? How many bicycles, cars and computers have been made today in the whole wide world?

Take a look at YOUR WORLD from a different perspection with the World Clock. I'm writing this at 11:26 pm CST and so far today there have been 15 deaths from leprosy in the world, 17,930 deaths from cancer, 40,262 from cardiovascular diseases, and 459 from war. God rest their souls in peace.

You can check for the day, week, month and year. I was amazed to see how many animals have become extinct this year. It doesn't seem possible - tens of thousands??

Cardiovascular diseases -- there's always a component of emotions and stress when you're talking about cardiovascular disease. There's nothing that stresses you physiologically like anger. It's one of the best reasons to learn emotional intelligence -- for your health. 5 minutes of anger suppresses your immune system for up to 8 hours. Your immune system is your health.

Now there's a Budget EQ Course, so there's no reason to put it off any longer.

Why you should not make (or accept) a Video Resume

Overlawyered

Is doing a video resume good emotional intelligence? After all, you're a dynamic, attractive person who presents well in-person. Is accepting them from applicants the smart thing to do? You sure get a clot more clues when you can see the candidate "in action." Will it help you in your search for a new job or a better job? If you're interviewing for jobs, see my ebook "Acing the New Interview"

Some have thought it a good idea when applying via such online job sites as Jobster, CareerBuilder and Vault.

According to this article on Overlawyered many labor and employment attorney are warning employers that video resumes creates too much exposure to be "comfortably accepted". That's lawyer-eze for "not a good idea."

"Just don't even deal with them," said Dennis Brown, an attorney in the San Jose, Calif., office of Littler Mendelson whose firm recently advised employers about the dangers of video resumés in a seminar. "My advice to my clients who have asked me about video resumes -- and I have had a lot of clients ask lately -- is do not accept, do not review video resumes."

This lawyer feels video resumes reveal information about a person's race, sex, disability, age -- all details that could wind up in a discrimination lawsuit.... "This is one of those instances where a little bit of unnecessary knowledge is dangerous." ...

Another lawyer, Darlene Smith of the Washington office of Boston's Mintz, Levin, Cohn, Ferris, Glovsky and Popeo, said she was deadset against it.

Comments from attorneys for the federal Equal Employment Opportunity Commission are included in this article on Overlawyered.

You Gotta Kiss De Girl

I think he captures something here ...



Susan Dunn, The Internet Dating Coach. Email me and let's get started: sdunn@susandunn.cc .

About to give up on dating? Now there's help.

Dating and about to give up?? Now there's help. DATING SUCCESS MANUAL FOR WOMEN written by an expert.

There's nothing like experience. I've heard the same things over and over, so I know what works and what doesn't in the dating arena. In interviewed hundreds of women in order to produce a manual that can help.

Let me make this easy for you.

Don't give up! Now there's help.

DATING SUCCESS MANUAL FOR WOMEN*by Susan Dunn, MA
Attract Your Ideal Partner (and keep him) Expert

Are you trying to date and getting sick of the runaround? I serve as Attract Your Dream Partner EXPERT for a major website. I know what you you're going through. That's why I wrote this book. I consistently get rated "beat of the best" and have 10s in all categories - advice knowledge, expertise, promptness and courtesy.

Now let me share with you what I've found out. Order DATING SUCCESS MANUAL FOR WOMEN - newly revised using information gathered from my experience helping women find, attract and keep the man of their dreams.

*special section on Internet dating -- the odds are in your favor, ladies, when you date on the Internet -- provided you know what you're doing. We show you how.

Coaching available as well, mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc . It really helps.

What Kind of Corporation Has a Blog

An authentic one, that's who. Southwest Airlines' Blog - NUTS ABOUT SOUTHWEST

“Blogging works for us because, as a Company, we know we have nothing to hide,” said Southwest’s President Colleen Barrett. “Our Employees absolutely ooze authenticity, and our bloggers have been able to bring that same SPIRIT to the blog.”

AUTHENTICITY is one of the emotional intelligence (EQ) competencies. It works for individuals and it works for corporation. Last year, according to their website, Southwest "boldy went where no other airline and few Fortune 500 companies had gone before -- into the blogosphere."

On the blog you can take a peek inside the culture and operations of the company. There are nearl 30 employee bloggers (both frontline and behind the scenes), and 'customers' can participate. In January 2007, there were more than 70,000 total visitors, nearly 30,000 unique. On NUTS ABOUT SOUTHWEST, you can share "the Warrior Spirit," "the Servant's Heart," and "FUN-LUVing Attitude."

BTW if you love Southwest like I do, and fought to set Love Field free, you can thank Congress for the Wright Amendment Reform Act here: http://www.setlovefree.com/. If you live in Texas like I do, and have a sister in San Diego, you know what this is all about.

P.S. Etiquette also works. Southwest, who lobbied so hard re: Love Field, not provides the link for us to thank Congress.

Well, thanks, Southwest for setting an example of authenticity and etiquette.

Etiquette - with the Queen of England and Others

It happens every day in the workplace. Those "sticky dilemmas."

I sure went through enough when I was in marketing ... like the CEO who wanted to do his own TV spot, and he was not only unattrative, he came off in front of the camera as deceptive. (How did I know? When you're a marketing CEO, it's your job to know that sort of thing.)

Now, if you were photographing the Queen of England, would you tell her to take off her crown?

In a line too good to have been scripted, the Queen replies, "What do you think this is?"

Quite a multicultural SNAFU here. Annie Leibovitz, hired to photograph the Queen, asks her to remove it (ever how nicely), telling her it would be more "casual." Well, yes, that it would.

COMMENTS:

• Yes, there is "simply going too far"? It's an EQ thing
• Come on now, do you honetly think the Queen of England would "storm out"? Don't you think she would have the offender removed?
• It's a TIARA, not a crown?
• You cannot trust the media, you cannot trust photography any more. It appears she's storming out. That footage was from when she arrived.
  
  Watch a video here:
  -->BBC apologizes to Queen Elizabeth II Or go here:
  javascript:navigateToTab('external','http://www.blinkx.com/burl?v=xETsMg94s9hIQaehBFVgqHJijK15OJCr')
• July 12: After implying that the queen stormed out of a photo-shoot with Annie Leibovitz, the BBC refutes the claim and issues an apology. NBC's Martin Savidge reports.

In the workplace, would you:

1. Watch your lawyer practice his jury summary, when you've been asked to watch and give feedback, and then tell him that he needed to make better eye contact?
2. Edit the CEO's article, correcting the grammar? The content? His opinion that "no vice president could be trusted with ..."
3. Advise your colleague that their dress was inappropriate for the office.
4. Tell your secretary she smelled bad.
5. Give negative feedback about anything to a 'superior officer', even if requested.
6. Inform your boss that the reason people wouldn't meet with him was because they said he was always picking his nose.

Tricky questions? The last one is a true example of when a coach was called in to find out why people were avoiding a certain executive.

Nothing's harder than the office politics. Need some help? Take the BUDGET EQ COURSE. There's also the Difficult People course.

I'm a coach. My job is to make your job easier!

817-734-1471, sdnun@susandunn.cc .

SEEN ON A TSHIRT: I DON'T KNOW IF YOU KNOW THIS
BUT I'M KIND OF A BIG DEAL AROUND HERE

P.S. and so is my crown, as a symbol the UK.

Paul Potts Criticized by Herb Breslin, Pavarotti's Former Manager

Hollywood Hookup : Paul Potts Criticized by Pavarotti's Former Manager - Take a Hike Breslin!

Paul Potts is such an inspiration, singing Nessun Dorma on Britain's Got Talent and winning a 100 pound contract from the growly Simon. A phone salesman, 36 years old who dreamed of one day being able to do what he was meant to do. Bullied as a youth. An incredible voice. He takes on Pavarotti's signature song. He has never had a voice lesson. He is going to use some of the money to pay off massive medical debts from an illness.

Is there something about this story you don't 'get'?

And here comes Pavarotti's former manager, Herb Breslin said (according to the above article):
“Nobody can sing Nessun Dorma and really do it justice unless with it, they have five to 10 years of experience. If they want to have a totally inexperienced, untrained voice sing Nessun Dorma and the audience is going to fall off its feet, it’s ridiculous. But that’s the way things are in the modern age.”

Come on, Mr. Breslin. Even Ask Jeeves has changed!

ThinkFashion writer says it best: "What [Breslin] doesn't realize is that the phenomenal thing about Mr. Potts is not his perfect voice (although he does have a perfect voice in my opinion) - it's his incredible story, his humble attitude and his raw talent for touching people's hearts when he sings."

Now if that isn't about emotional intelligence I don't know what is. Reality-testing ... flexiblity ... the most marvelous things in this world are not logical and defy rational explanation. You also have to 'get' what's going on. There's no analogy I can give that doesn't sound wrong, but I'll forge ahead ... this is saying that it's amazing Dolly Parton is a star when she's so short, or that the only reason Edith Piaf was a superstar was because she could sing ... or going to MacDonald's and complaining about the service.

Or that thinking we the people, when so overwhelmed with this man's story are interested in whether he can hit 9 high Cs like Pavarotti. ThinkFashion says "some people can't enjoy other people's happiness" and that's what happens when you don't get on the bandwagon and for the wrong reasons.

I love this man. I was overwhelmed at his COURAGE. How would you like to walk out there and tell Simon Cowell you're doing to "sing opera"? Nobody can sing opera. Didn't he know that? I was afraid for him. There's nothing worse than opera when it's not done right, and you certainly can't do it without formal training. It's like how can you mess up doing the Texas two-step but for heaven's sake don't get out there and try the Tango until you've been doing it, and with that partner, for 5 years.

Watch Paul Potts here and get out your tissues: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1k08yxu57NA .

Vincero! Vincero! Vincero!

And incidentally, this man has already introduced a host of people to opera and Puccini. I've been checking the blogs and keep reading "I'd never heard opera before ..." Check out our Club Vivo Per Lei site. This is the kind of joyous total situation we can never get enough of.

BTW, can I just say Puccini rocks! :-)