Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Bullying and Mobbing


Yes, they say you choose being angry or not, and you can choose who can embarass you, and who can demean or humilitate you. It's true, but it's also an ideal. It's the reaction you can choose, with age, and with practice. The emotions are what they are.

Part of living in a society is having a conscience, and along with this comes "shame". It's also part of learning ... at first you can't do it, then you start learning and get it right some of the time.

For some people, making a mistake, or doing it wrong, or having egg on your face is very shaming, and for others not so much, for we all have our moments.

There is also the humiliation and disrespect that others choose to inflict.

Because I work in emotional intelligence, I hear the stories. I heard one story today about a boy who was humiliated by a teacher in front of his middle school class. I observed another situation where a middle-aged employee was humiliated in front of her co-workers. I received an email from an individual beseiged by "mobbing" at work -- when a group of bullies hiding behind sabotage, email, innuendo and gossip try to drive someone out (usually the best worker-type).

I don't like it. For them -- for you -- for all of us --

"The horror of that moment," the King went on,
"I shall never, never forget!"
"You will, though," the Queen said,
"if you don't make a memorandum of it."
~ Lewis Carroll

Some bullies bully and mob because that's who they are. Others have learned this behavior and don't know what else to do.

EVERYONE DESERVES RESPECT AND DESERVES TO LEARN HOW TO RESPECT OTHERS, IF THEY WERE NOT TAUGHT THIS LIFESKILL. It's important to understand that these are learned behaviors. They are behaviors that make others miserable, but also the one who does them. What has been learned can be unlearned, and new behaviors that work, and make the world better for all of us, can be put in their place.
To all the bullies out there, and you know you you are: Learn some EQ and quit picking on other people because you feel so inadequate yourself! If you cannot manage your own emotions to the extent you have to make others miserable, and make the general environment unpleasant and unproductive, why not learn some real lifeskills that work? You don't have to live consumed by anger, jealousy and fear. There's a better way, and we offer it.

WE DON'T CURSE THE DARKNESS, WE LIGHT A CANDLE, and it's right here in the EQ Alive! Program. Most people who take the program do come alive, in the best sort of way. They use words like "This was the missing piece." One woman wrote, "I feel alive again. I've got my life back. Thank you."

Read Susan's latest ebook, "Mobbing and Bullying: What It Is, What You Can Do About It"

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Monday, January 30, 2006

Emotional Intelligence

"Take a music bath once or twice a week for a few seasons, and you will find that it is to the soul what the water bath is to the body."

~Oliver Wendell Holmes

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Saturday, January 28, 2006

Launch Your MLM Program


KEYWORDS: network marketing, marketing, Arbonne, health, coach, coach certification, EQ coach, wellness, wellness coach, certified coach, success, entrepreneur, music, stress, mobbing, bullying, changing beliefs, psychology, money, internet marketing, nutraceuticals, wellness products, business

SUMMARY: It isn’t as easy to make money at network marketing as they’d like you to believe. You need to position yourself uniquely, and build a marketing strategy around a synergistic package as a certified Wellness/EQ coach. From this platform, you can launch!

“Network Marketing Business Going Down the Tubes?”
by Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ & Wellness Coach

Let’s face it, building an Internet business isn’t easy. How do you get customers? How do you keep them? What’s the hook besides just being another person selling another something, like everyone else trying to get rich quick on the Internet.

The trick it to position your product around something greater and more sustaining, and there’s a field specifically designed to make this possible. It’s called coaching! It adds the synergy that can get you launched.

Become a certified professional coach and you immediately stand out from the crowd. You give yourself credibility with your customers, and hugely increase your influence-base. You immediately operationalize your product. The person can see it as part of their life. You become someone who meets needs, not someone who just sells a widget.

Coaching developed because it was needed. It’s a source for people who want to make positive changes in their lives. The typical profile of a coaching client is someone motivated, educated, above the mean in income. Coaching is Internet-driven, conducted mostly by phone, so you have people already Internet savvy, ready and willing to buy.

Becoming a certified Wellness/EQ Coach is a simple process. It’s fresh, it’s new, and EQ is so hot. It’s an investment in your business that will allow you to get more customers and clients, keep them longer, and recruit more sellers under you. The major goals are getting your clients on auto-ship and getting others to sell for you. Being a coach attracts more qualified people your way. You can swing a much wider net.

As a certified Health Coach and EQ Coach you become a person who can meet many needs that are inter-related in ways that makes sense to your clients and customers and have a powerful synergy.

Here’s an example. We know that emotions effect the immune system, and that the immune system is, quite literally our health. We have antibiotics for infections, but there is nothing for a virus like flu or Bird flu. Your immune system is your FIRST line of defense against a bacteria, and your ONLY line of defense against a virus. But don’t take my word for it, I’m not a doctor, ask your own doctor about viruses.

Now here’s how it works.

If I’m coaching someone who’s stressed, or looking for a more balanced lifestyle, of course they are going to need to look at all the parts of their life – emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. (These folks trying to get on the bandwagon with “SQ” and things like that are missing the boat – it’s all in EQ.) Once I assess their situation, I can recommend many things. I can offer coaching on EQ after they take The EQ-Map and we find out where the deficits are. My ebook, “About Changing Beliefs, Self-limiting Thoughts and What to Accept,”. A good dietary supplement like DefenseBuilder from Arbonne. Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music, for stress relief. I think we all intuitively know that one answer, like “get a daytimer” or “exercise more” isn’t going to do it. You want to have a smorgasbord for your potential customers and clients.

If they’re stressed at work or want to advance, they might need EQ coaching, my ebook, “How to Build Your Career with Emotional Intelligence", or “Mobbing and Bullying”, new cosmetics and a makeover, and the StrengthsFinder Profile from “Now Discover Your Strengths”.

Or let’s say they’re single and looking for a great guy. I can offer “Midlife Dating Survival Manual for Women,” membership in MillionaireMatch or eHarmony, individual coaching, cosmetics and a makeover, and individual coaching in EQ, because that’s what drives successful relationships.

You can see how when you’re a certified Wellness/EQ Coach, you’re positioned uniquely, and you’re a one-stop shopping center. You can plan a strategy of quality services and products, offering your clients and customers what they intuitively know works.

The formula for successful network marketing: Take a look at your product. Get certified as a coach. Then father other passive revenue streams around it, and promote it all, as a synergistic package, from your website, articles on the Internet, and blog. Don’t forget to ping your blog.

Susan Dunn. I train and certify coaches, provide individual coaching and business programs, ebooks, Internet courses, and am an Arbonne consultant. Visit my website to learn more.

Become a certified EQ/Wellness coach and watch your network marketing take off.

Become an Arbonne consultant and affiliate with the best. I screen every affiliate, as my reputation depends upon it. I choose only the best. Arbonne products include baby products, weight loss, anti-aging skincare, hormone replacement, shaving cream, and nutraceuticals.

Let me help you build a synergistic package as a certified coach that positions you uniquely and adds many strategies for promoting your products and services and adding more passive revenue streams that strengthen your credibility and selling power. Everyone wants to be financially independent. Let me help you reach your dream.

Friday, January 27, 2006


"Being tiresomely predictable or banal doesn't help."

Emotional intelligence is an art. It allows you to maneuver, to influence, and to NOT be manipulated. Creativity and flexiblity are always advantageous. The person with the most possible responses in any conversation/argument will win, and 80% of our interchanges have a "winner" or a "loser". We are often trying to make a point, influence someone, instruct them, or direct their behavior or feelings. EQ helps your expand your repertoire. Being unpredictable helps. Being tiresomely predictable, even banal, does not.


BENFORD'S LAW OF CONTROVERSY: Passion is inversely proportional to the amount of real information available. (Science fiction author Gregory Benford, 1980)

REDUCTIO AD HITLERUM: Modeled on reductio ad absurdum, of course. i.e., "Adolf Hitler supported X, therefore X must be evil." A variety of “association fallacy.” (U. of Chicago Classics professor and ethicist, Leo Strauss.)

THE WILCOX-MC CANDLISH LAW OF ONLINE DISCOURSE EVOLUTION: (Bryce Wilcox and Stanton McCandlish on Usenet, ca. 1996): The chance of success of any attempt to change the topic or direction of a thread of discussion in a networked forum is directly proportional to the quality of the current content.

MC CANDLISH'S FIRST COROLLARY: The chance of any change to the topic or direction of a thread being a change for the better is inversely proportional to the quality of the content before the change.

EXCEPTION TO FIRST COROLLARY: When a thread reaches the flame war stage, all changes in thread topic or direction will be changes for the worse.

MC CANDLISH'S SECOND COROLLARY: Thread bandwidth consumption increases in inverse proportion to thread content quality.

WILCOX'S COROLLARY: The more involved one is in a flame war, the less likely one is to recognize it as such.

MC CANDLISH'S THIRD COROLLARY: Any attempt at recourse to formal logic or identification of classic fallacies will simply increase the irrationality of the discussion.

SUB-COROLLARY: It is likely that this is so because the use of formal logic immediately raises the quality of the discussion to unity, thus guaranteeing the next followup will be a non sequitur.

WILCOX-MC CANDLISH PARADOX: Thread degeneration can (theoretically) be forestalled or even reversed by citation to the Wilcox-McCandlish Law.

GODWIN'S LAW: as an online discussion grows longer, the probability of a comparison involving Nazis or Hitler approaches 1.

There is a tradition in many Usenet newsgroups that once such a comparison is made, the thread is over and whoever mentioned the Nazis has automatically lost whatever argument was in progress.

It is considered poor form to arbitrarily raise such a comparison with the motive of ending the thread. There is a widely recognized codicil that any such deliberate invocation of Godwin's Law will be unsuccessful.

See an example of Godwin's Law here, on the Introvertz blog, by national expert on introverts, Nancy Fenn.

Thursday, January 26, 2006

Deputy PM John Prescott's department (UK) accused of bullying


Le mobbing est un poison lent
Mobbing ist ein leises Gift Zuletzt geändert
The Germans and the French call it "the slow poison."

“Mobbing can be understood as the stressor to beat all stressors,” says Dr. Kenneth Westhaus, U. of Waterloo, author of “Eliminating Professors.” According to him, the typical mob victim is a good-to-high achiever personally invested in a formally secure job who somehow threatens or shames co--workers or managers who then decide to get rid of him or her.

However, bullying is complex, and there are other reasons.

I coach clients on mobbing and bullying, both the abused, and the managers who are trying to identify it early and get rid of it. In my experience, it is often the best workers, serious people, introverts, just plain nice people. When it rears its ugly head, it upsets other workers, demoralizes, demeans, lowers productivity, causes lack of focus, raises stress, and causes increased illness, absenteeism and "presenteeism."

At the human level, it's wrong, wrong to treat people that way. At the corporate level, it can lead to exposure, and if the reputation is established cause current good employees to leave (wouldn't you?) and drive good applicants away. Word gets around, you know. As I was explaining to an HR manager the other day, "No, it is not a 'just get over it' kind of thing."

Has it happened to you? Is it happening to you now? Why does it happen? Read my article, Mobbing & Bullying in the Workplace: Has This Happened to You?

We believe, along with bullying.org that "Everyone has the right to be respected and the responsiblity to respect others."

Read my ebook: "Mobbing, Bullying and What to Do About It"

Today from BBC -- MPs on the committee which covers the work of the Office of the Deputy Prime Minister (OPDM) in the UK are demanding action after Deputy PM John Prescott's department was accused of bullying, with one in 10 workers claiming to have been victimised in the past year.

22% say they've witness unfair behavior.


"The survey results were revealed in the annual report and accounts of the ODPM, which covers housing, planning, local government and the regions.

"The department should take steps immediately to reinforce the message that bullying and intimidation is unacceptable


"The survey found 10% of staff felt they had been bullied in the past year, 8% had experienced discrimination and 6% reported harassment.

"Some 22% of staff had witnessed unfair treatment and a larger proportion of black or black British staff (14%) had experienced discrimination than other staff.

"The survey also found disabled people were more likely to have suffered discrimination and revealed that a third of staff did not know how to report unfair treatment."

The UK and European Union are definitely ahead in the area of bullying and mobbing. There is even a clinic in German that deals exclusively with victims of mobbing and bullying.

To read the whole article go here.

If this is happening to you and you would like some coaching, please give me a call at 210-496-0678 or email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc . When someone's being mobbed or bullied, you can't think straight - that's part of the strategy. It helps to have an objective person to help give clarification and strategy, someone who's in your corner.

Resources & Information:


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Wednesday, January 25, 2006

Propel Your Corporate Career Forward


Today we have a guest article geared toward career. There's a good bit of EQ in this article about career in the science field, known to be one of the roughest.

I love the way he says "this is about transforming your LIFE, not just your DESK." This is precisely why I specialize in EQ for coaching. There are a million day timers out there. The reason you aren't organized, and/or "can't" get organized, is not because of a lack of tools. Right??

Everyone can benefit from coaching. I have coached many people - - teachers, MLMers, Arbonne consultants, physicians, lawyers, businesspeople, people in sales, managers, paralegals, secretaries, and concerned others. Everyone can benefit from EQ. It is the missing piece in the puzzle no matter where you are in your life, career, or relationships.

Call for coaching - 210-496-0678.

Enjoy this article. Also here's an EQ point. I talk to clients all the time who have excuses for why they aren't where they want to be ... too late, ADHD, can't spell, can't this and that. Notice the misspelling at the bottom of this article from a man clearly successful in his field.

4 Steps to Propel your Corporate Career Forward
by Gary Lavine, PhD

1. Chart Your Course

Before you can really take control of your career, you need to devote some time to getting yourself organized. This type of organization goes beyond traditional steps like setting up a filing system; this is transforming your life instead of just
your desk. Your efforts to move your career forward will be useless if you don't know where you're going, so you should begin by developing a clear idea of where you would like your career to go. Next, you want to create some goals to help you get there. These first two organizational steps give you a basic plan. Once this plan is in place, you can start breaking things down into manageable steps and concrete tasks. After these components are in place, you have everything you need to organize your time for maximum efficiency.

Having a plan to execute can make a huge difference in how effective you are in your position. As you begin to implement this plan you will develop momentum and find yourself accomplishing a surprising amount. Having a well-defined outcome is the surest way for you to really put your career on the fast track to start making more money and fulfilling your professional dreams. Finally, having a plan gives you a concrete roadmap to follow and means you won't waste time and energy wondering what
to do next, you'll always know your next logical step.

2. Master Your Environment

To be truly successful you have to have an in-depth understanding of the company you work for. A good first step towards really developing a comprehensive view of your company is to recognize your value to the organization. From that starting point you can go on to understand the value of all of the other parts of the organization. Another critical step in mastering your environment is figuring out all of the unwritten rules that are present in your organization. One very helpful way to both determine your value and learn the unwritten rules is to seek out
mentors with different perspectives.

Once you're truly aware of how your employer really operates, you'll know what it will take to put your plan into action. By understanding the forces that make things happen in your environment, you will have much more control over how you spend your time. By having a clear view of how your company works, you will know exactly what to do to keep your job safe in the lean times and position yourself for promotions in the good times.

3. Connect With Others

It's not enough to fully understand the corporate environment and your place within it; you also need to be able to take advantage of this information through effective communication. It is vital for you to be able to express yourself in a variety of
contexts and to a wide range of people. Once others understand what you are doing and why you are doing it that way, you need to take the further step of marketing yourself effectively so that you get maximum recognition.

With polished communication skills at your disposal, you will be able to execute your plan much faster than you would expect. Through good communication you can earn the trust and respect of others and more easily get their cooperation. In fact, it is possible to develop your communication skills to the point where you can control just about every interaction you have during your work day. The benefits don't end when you leave the building at the end of the day; when you extend these skills to a robust professional network outside of your organization you'll also have access to many additional people's expertise.

4. Make Breakthroughs Happen

In order to make major contributions to any organization, it is necessary to be truly innovative. You can develop these skills by learning to look at problems and pursue solutions in new ways. You also need to learn to help your colleagues think in different ways. The only way to get the rewards and recognition that you want is by making truly original contributions.

Once you have developed the ability to be innovative you will not only be in a position to make really big contributions to your company, but you will also be more creative in finding a way to execute your plan. Coming up with and developing inventive approaches to the issues that your company is facing is the quickest way to be respected and admired by everyone you work with. Your impact becomes further magnified by being able to effectively sell your ideas to others in your company by using your finely honed communication skills.
Gary Lavine, PhD - owner, www.thesuccessfulscientist.com . How This Scientist Discovered Strategies to take his career to the next level. Receive science career advice from someone who has been there. Dedicated to helping scientists find new ways of approaching there [sic] old problems. Learn to organize, innovate and communicate in bold new ways to boost your career.

Book Publishing in IndiA

More people every day want to write a book. This article is full of information about book writing and the industry of selling books.

Interview with Penguin Publisher
by Sharif Khan

Mr. David Davidar began his career in journalism and is founder of Penguin Books India. Currently, he is Publisher of Penguin Canada and also is author of the novel, The House of Blue Mangoes.

How did you first get started in the publishing business?

Twenty years ago I was working in Bombay and there was a colleague I knew who had done a publishing course at Harvard. And she said, "Why don't you go there and check it out?" So I came to the States, and I did the course, and at the course was Peter
Mayer, Chairman of Penguin world-wide. He said, "Look you're from India?" (I said "yeah"). He said he was thinking of starting a company in India and asked me, "Would you like to run it?"

I was then twenty-six years old, I'd never done a publishing company in my life, I had little or no idea, but when you're twenty-six years old sometimes you're foolishly confident about your abilities, so I said "yes." I went to Delhi where the office was going to be and I had never been there before, starting from Cambridge, Massachusetts to Delhi - and there was nothing there. There were exactly 3 employees in the first year of operations and they invested ten thousand US dollars in the company in 1986. And that was it... Now Penguin India is Asia's largest English
publishing company and has done over 10 million dollars in sales. It was quite an interesting experience and I had a ball! It kept growing and growing. It's so fascinating... Now every multinational is in India. Penguin was the first.

What project are you particularly proud of as a publisher?

The fact of having created this company (Penguin India). We publish 200 books a year in India in the English language now. We've started publishing in 4 or 5 languages other than English (the first time Penguin has published in any other languages) and
will be 25 years old in five years. Its just been a win-win situation because when we started, it coincided with the boom in Indians becoming global superstars like Vikram Seth, Arundathi Roy, and Upamanyu Chaterji, etc., etc., etc... The whole lot... so it is the #1 company by a long stretch and so that is my greatest pride because I started out as an editor but am now trying to develop companies and just the fact of helping create Penguin India has been enormously satisfying.

Can you tell us about the BUSINESS of publishing? (I think for most people it's a mystery veiled in secrecy and delusions of grandeur).

There is the myth that if you write a novel you'll become rich, famous, attractive to women, or whatever the case may be, but I think that's largely a myth. Very few books break out in a way such as God of Small Things and A Suitable Boy did because its only 1% who get to superstardom because they won a big prize or it's an amazing book and enough readers caught on to the fact. But think of the odds... There are about 100,000 books published every year. How on earth are you going to get each of those books to a reader's attention! Let's say you walk into a bookstore, you
face the first novel that appears and you have no idea what it's about. There is so much competing for your attention. Most novels sell only about 400 or 500 copies. If it's a good seller it will sell 5000 copies if it won an award and got great reviews. It is only superstars that sell more and superstars are very few and
every one knows who they are. The question we need to ask is why are there so few superstars? Why isn't every writer published famous? There isn't enough attention available for these writers. So that TV time, radio time, bookstore sales, all mitigate against every writer getting in.

Two or three industries suffer from the same thing, movie and TV, and music being closest to the book industry. Think of the tens of thousands of artists who've produced CDs and nobody's heard of them, and nobody will hear of them because that is the way the system works. So what happens say if you've written a book and
you approach a publisher? Well normally you approach the publishing house through a literary agent because they are the top filter, and a top agent comes to me and says this is a wonderful book... I'll say I'll read it. But if you approach me directly you probably won't get through many of the sieves... there are assistants, there are people in the mailroom, and there are book manuscripts at the back because of overflow... everyone thinks they can write a book!

Finding a good agent is becoming increasingly tough because they too are inundated with manuscripts as well. The agent comes to us generating interest in a book and we have special editors, one specializes in Canadian writers; she says okay or no, I like it or don't like it. The book is brought to a meeting where she says she wants to pay this kind of money. You have a price on this book say $35 dollars, so the author will get a percentage royalty on every book sold. For a 10% royalty you will get $3.5 dollars on every copy sold. So what we will do, is advance the author,
through his or her agent x amount of money, say $35,000 dollars because we expect to sell 5,000 or 6,000 hardback and 10,000 copies in paperback, so we figure its worth about $35,000. So it's not an outright gift... it's an advance against royalties.
Then hopefully the book is published and lives up to expectations and earns out and the response is we're happy, the author is happy, and the agent is happy... but in 90% of the cases it doesn't earn out the advance and so you're in trouble. Of the 100 books published in Canada, I expect 20 books to support the rest.

Where do you see the Canadian publishing industry heading? How does it compare with what's happening in the Indian publishing industry?

Canada has certain problems and certain advantages like many markets in the world. I'll deal with the problem first. It's a small market. It's 35 million of which 5 million are French speakers, so you can't do much with that size of market. Whereas
America is 200 million plus, UK is over 60 million, Australia is really small, about 20 million. So tens of thousands of books are jostling for attention in this country. Plus you have the major superstore Indigo Chapters which controls over 50% of market, so if they don't support a book it's dead in the water. And there is
immense pressure on them as well because there are so many books pouring in. So these are the problems people have to deal with including the fact that there are lots of writers, agents, lots of publishing houses, everyone competing for that elusive customer. Fortunately, Canadians read quite a lot, but they don't read enough to make everyone prosperous. It is probably very difficult for a writer to break out in a major way unless you are someone like Yan Martel, Michael Ondaatje, Rohinton Mistry, Margaret Attwood, etc., these are people already established and
are stars because they've built up over period of time. Beyond that, it's very tough to break through.

On the positive side, because of the way Canada has been encouraging immigration for the last 30 years, you have the whole world sitting here, and so Canada's stories are quite fresh; whereas writing about one's experiences living in Mississauga
that's where a lot of these books get bogged down because if your domestic experience is not interesting, how will you make your book interesting? Your life is interesting to friends, family, and about a 100 people who know you. That is were most first novels fail because they are so autobiographical, instead of trying to sell a story. Why would people want to read a book unless they're interested in your life?

The interesting thing here is you have people from Somalia, Kosovo, Taiwan, India, and they're all writing books about their own experiences and that's what makes it interesting. So I think Canada has a great future about the stories its writers are
starting to tell. And it is a very good domestic market for its size because per capita people read a lot more here than other countries.

I was once asked at the Canada Book Expo, where I was giving a presentation, what advice can I give aspiring writers. My reply is they should always take risks. There's no point in writing a small, safe, book... it just disappears. Take risk! What do you have to lose? Stretch yourself, write a big, huge, ambitious book! And those are the books that always leave a mark because there's so few around.

The Indian publishing scene in 20 years will be the second or third largest in the world overtaking Canada and Australia; I'm talking about English language publishing. I've heard there are about 300 million Indians using some form of English, so they've already taken over the US and UK, but for the publishing industry you need to use English as first language or frequently because otherwise you're not going to go to the bookstore to buy a book. You might go to a street fair, but you're not my market. That's going to take a while. I think today there are 7 to 8 million Indians who use English effortlessly, so that's about the size of
New Zealand, but because you have next generation teenagers and young people learning English at the speed of light, they are going to join the market in another 5 to 10 years; this generation will continue to be the market, and there's going to
be bit of the previous generation also in the market, so from about 7 to 8 million India will go to 30 to 40 million in the space of 15 to 20 years which means it's just going to explode. It's already the fastest growing market in the world and it's a huge market. Penguin India is fortunate, we came in the beginning so we got in on the ground floor; all we need is to reap the benefits of our earlier labor because this market is growing, while the Canadian market is pretty much static. However, it is growing through some immigration. That is why Canada needs to look out for itself constantly and build its strengths to the world if it's going to keep its economy and lifestyle going.

Who are your heroes?

I started out with heroes and along the way you lose the need to have heroes. I greatly admire my mentor, Peter Mayer, former Chairman of Penguin, Sunny Mehta, who runs Knopf... I greatly admire writers like Vikram Seth, Arundathi Roy, Ondaatje,
Rohinton Mistry... but at some point in your life you stop having heroes. You figure everyone does their best, some people have luck on their side, some people have some advantages, but everyone's a hero.

What makes them heroes in your mind?

They are exceptionally talented, and they have arrived... You know, I was reading a poem by Rudyard Kipling which goes, "If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds' worth of distance run, yours is the Earth and everything that's in it... " Which means you do your best every single moment you can, and if you happen to have the talent as well, then you get to a stage where you are slightly set apart from your peers because you have done things that it is not possible for them to do.

So for example, you have great artists, like the South African writer Coetzee; they've written novels that's not possible for average novelists to write because of their level of skill and level of perception. Why do you read a novel today? You have so many sources to choose from. The reason I think you read a novel today is because the greatest novels give you more truth than non-fiction. Non-fiction is information, non-fiction is argument... The Economist will give you insights, but what fiction gives you is insights into the human condition, the great fiction, not the hundred thousand novels that are published every year. There are very few books like Disgrace or A Suitable Boy or 100 Years of Solitude, my personal favorites, which raise the bar. If you can't do that, why bother? So that's why they are my

In terms of publishing, Sunny and Peter have pushed the boundaries of the publishing business and tried to innovate. Anyone who pushes the boundaries needs to be admired. Whether you are a business person, an athlete, or whatever, you need to push the boundaries instead of merely existing. Pearson, the company that owns Penguin, its vision is you need to be "Brave, Imaginative, and Decent." Which are interesting words that carry a lot of meaning, and is what I look for in people. There's lots of people that don't get opportunities, lots of people face much competition, maybe their home situation isn't so great, maybe their work situation isn't so great, so their kind of stuck... but I think people make their own destiny don't they? Yeah, I admire people, but if you ask me whether I have heroes today -
probably not.

Do you have a dream or vision that guides the course of your life?

The thing about vision is it needs to be renewed every day. Because at the end of the day, what does a person want to do? You have a set path which clarifies itself as you go along. You have a set path - this is what I do, this is what I'm good at, and how can I use this to influence events and people within my ambit? And I think narrowly defined within my job description, my vision for Penguin India was to give India a world-class publishing company. I think that vision has been achieved. My vision of Penguin Canada is to make it the best company of its size anywhere in the world.

You only have one chance, make the best of it!
Sharif Khan (http://www.herosoul.com; sharif@herosoul.com) is a freelance writer, motivational speaker, coach, and author of Psychology of the Hero Soul, an inspirational book on awakening the hero within and developing people's leadership potential. He provides inspirational keynotes and leadership seminars and also helps companies develop empowering content through his copywriting services. To contact Sharif directly, call (416) 417-1259.

Friday, January 20, 2006

Valentine's Day with EQ

VALENTINE'S DAY IS COMING ... ARE YOU PREPARED? Here are some resources for you.

Is music the most important part of a romantic Valentine's celebration? You be the judge. Check out the romantic classical music selections and opera** at Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music romantic music to set the mood. Join Club Vivo. It's free.

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Check out The Top 11 Valentine Gifts. You may find some surprises here.

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Thursday, January 19, 2006

A Dip in the Moskva River the Eve of January 19

Nancy and Babushka in Yaroslavl, Russia on a beautiful summer's day

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The weather in Russia is currently making the news. this photo caught my eye in a series on the freezing temperatures, the worst in a decade, that's shutting down power plants, closing schools, and stopping traffic. It's a photo showing a man taking the "traditional dip in the Moskva River the eve of January 19," Epiphany in the Russian Orthodox Church.

I had the privilege of traveling in Russia two summers ago. We started in Moscow (Moskva) and ended in St. Petersburg. We were there for "white nights", in late July, when there were only about 2-3 hours of darkness in 24. We joined Russian families strolling in parks in the "daylight" at 10 p.m Russian families are small - - usually two parents, one child, and one babushka (grandmother).

We traveled on the Volga, and I couldn't help wondering what it would be like in the winter. Watching the people out in the parks so late at night, you could feel how important some warmth and sunshine were to them.

Well, this winter has been quite a winter for the Russians.

The picture made me think of a passage from my Resilience course:

There's a certain unpredictability to resilient survivors.

Reminds me of a great scene in the movie, "Gardens of Stone," where a character tells James Caan he knows we're going to win Viet Nam because helicopters are coming back to base with arrows in them.

"How can they expect to win a war when they're shooting arrows at a helicopter," he scoffs.

James Caan's character counters: "How can you expect to beat someone who will shoot an arrow at a helicopter?"

What kind of tough, resilient people decide to have a tradition of jumping into a River on the eve of Epiphany, when it's certain to be bitter cold.

It makes sense to baptise yourself in a river in Savannah, Georgia on some day you choose, like at the end of July, but a tradition that puts you in a River in the dead of winter? They had to cut through the ice to make the pool to jump into.

How can they not survive?

The photos are sobering. There's one of a woman reading by candlelight because the power has gone out ... some homeless people ...

I loved the country and the people, and I think St. Petersburg is the most beautiful city I've ever seen.

Thoughts and prayers to all who are resilient in the face of adversity.
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Tamiflu Not Effective?


If you go to the Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music website, you can read about the King of Spain who was healed of his depression by listening every night to someone with a beautiful voice sing to him.

We know that sound is vibrations ... we talk about it making us feel good, and we know that sometimes we feel like it's inside us, or vice versa, or that we're part of it. Probably there is music all the time, we just call it that when it's audible to us. At Club Vivo, we think there's something incredible about music, and that it's highly related to emotional intelligence and to your health. (Go HERE and read more.)

Well, I was fascinated to read in The Wall Street Journal about a new stethoscope that's been invented. Doctors need something to help, because hospitals are now too noisy for the old stethoscopes.

As if we didn't know it, things have gotten noisier. A hospital used to run around 57 decibels (like a running washing machine), and how it's more like 72 db ("grinding garbage disposal).

The stethoscope captures "the body's wind and percussion section - - the lungs and heart." (Isn't that the most wonderful writing!

Now this is what I thought was interesting. Someone designed a stethoscope with a hole that would let outside sound on. They figured this out by working with acoustic specialists. So when the doctor's listening to your chest, the hole in the steth. gathers in environmental noises , and thered it "meets" the same noise which has been conducted through the patient's body, and they sort of cancel each other out, and the doctor can hear the patient's internal sounds.

That's a fascinating idea. Think of some applications and metaphors!

Meanwhile another article in the WSJ this week reported a study in Lancet saying that Tamiflu wasn't that effective against the Asian bird flu. Every country is supposed to be stockpiling it, but what if it doesn't help? And if it "helps" that's not the same thing as a "cure," in the sense of antibiotics and bacteria.

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Wednesday, January 18, 2006

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From a client: "Before I started coaching with you I wasn't doing anything. Now it's like I'm alive again. I'm sleeping again at night. Everything looks different. I feel like I can do anything I set my mind to now. I've already signed up 3 consultants under me. The money's starting to come in. Thanks." PW, Florida


Preface: Veterans, and World War II, are special to me.

My Dad is not alive now. If he were, like the other veterans of WWII, he would be in his 80s. WWII veterans are dying at the rate of about 2,000 every day. We baby boomers, well, our generation was so-named because many of us were born when our dads came back from the war.

In my case, I was born while my dad was in France, serving in the Army, an artillery officer. He enlisted from college, and was sent (from a Chicago suburb, and Yale) to Fort Hood (later Camp Hood) in Texas ... where, of course, he met my Mom at a dance, and they married, and rest was history.

Not long after, he was deployed overseas, and he didn't return until we (I have a twin) were nearly 2 years old. Mom and me and my sister lived with her parents until he returned, as many brides and kids did.

My dad was a soldier. He didn't talk much about the war. To him you didn't talk about things like that. I once asked him when I was a little girl if he'd ever killed anyone, and he just got mad and told me not to ask questions like that.

He talked about "doing your duty", however, and in fact that's how Nixon got him to become chairman of the Securities Exchange Commission at a difficult time, when it was hard to find someone to take on the job. The SEC had been scandalized, and the stock market was at an all-time low, with no relief in sight. Nixon sent General Haig to talk to my dad, and the general told him it was his duty. And so he went, into another war of sorts.


Thanks, Dad. Really, from the bottom of my heart, I want to thank you.
The elderly parking lot attendant wasn't in a good mood!

Neither was Sam Bierstock. It was around 1 a.m., and Bierstock, a Delray Beach, Fla., eye doctor, business consultant, corporate speaker and musician, was bone tired after appearing at an event.

He pulled up in his car, and the parking attendant began to speak. "I took two bullets for this country and look what I'm doing," he said bitterly.

At first, Bierstock didn't know what to say to the World War II veteran. But he rolled down his window and told the man, "Really, from the bottom of my heart, I want to thank you."

Then the old soldier began to cry.

"That really got to me," Bierstock says.

Cut to today.

Bierstock, 58, and John Melnick, 54, of Pompano Beach - a member of Bierstock's band, Dr. Sam and the Managed Care Band - have written a song inspired by that old soldier in the airport parking lot. The mournful "Before You Go" does more than salute those who fought in WWII. It encourages people to go out of their way to thank the aging warriors before they die.

"If we had lost that particular war, our whole way of life would have been shot," says Bierstock, who plays harmonica. "The WW II soldiers are now dying at the rate of about 2,000 every day. I thought we needed to thank them."

The song is striking a chord. Within four days of Bierstock placing it on the Web http://www.beforeyougo.us, the song and accompanying photo essay have bounced around nine countries, producing tears and heartfelt thanks from veterans, their sons and daughters and grandchildren.

"It made me cry," wrote one veteran's son.

Another sent an e-mail saying that only after his father consumed several glasses of wine would he discuss "the unspeakable horrors" he and other soldiers had witnessed in places such as Anzio, Iwo Jima, Bataan and Omaha Beach.

"I can never thank them enough," the son wrote. "Thank you for thinking about them."

Bierstock and Melnick thought about shipping it off to a professional singer, maybe a Lee Greenwood type, but because time was running out for so many veterans, they decided it was best to release it quickly, for free, on the Web. They've sent the song to Sen. John McCain and others in Washington. Already they have been invited to perform it in Houston for a Veterans Day tribute - this after just a few days on the Web. They hope every veteran in America gets a chance to hear it.

GOD BLESS every EVERY veteran...and THANK you to those of you veterans who may receive this !

CLICK HERE TO HEAR THE SONG AND SEE THE PICTURES. Then share it -- and send it to everyone you know!

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

High court upholds Oregon assisted-suicide law


FROM TODAY'S MAILBAG, from a reader: "I'm not sure if this is an EQ topic, but it's certainly an emotional one, the supreme court ruling on physician-assisted suicide. On the msn.com website, there's a protester with a sign that says "You would do it for your dog, wouldn't you?" What's the difference between euthanizing your dog or euthanizing your wife if they were terminally ill and suffering? I've watched both my parents die slowly from cancer, and when my dog got cancer, I was heart-broken, but I thought, at least I can put Sugar out of her pain when the time comes. Signed, Reader in Paradise Cove.

Dear Reader in Paradise Cove: I'm not sure there's a question in this email, sir. It's all about EQ, however. Issues such as these, we feel deeply about, and some of us think deeply about. Some tend to think more, some to feel more. Here are some of the reactions around me today:

  • I was interested to see the federal court bow to the state court.
  • Now there will be a medical specialty for doctors who specialize in telling people how to kill themselves, and providing the means, and they'll get rich. WOnder what it will be called. Maybe a PA ... it isn't nearly as hard to kill someone as it is to keep them alive. Or something like a Midwife. Endlife?
  • Why do you need a doctor to kill yourself?
  • The Hippocratic Oath says "first do no harm." Now, are you doing harm by helping the person die, or by continuing for them to be in terrible pain for instance.
  • I think it's a slippery slope. Look at all the in compus mentis (?) law suits, like when Granny is rich and old and suddenly gets s boyfriend and disinherits her family. They could get the money that much sooner if they could get her suicided.
  • I've seen the courts made some bad calls about who is in sound mind and who isn't.
  • My grandfather, he was in a nursing home and too weak to even feed himself. I mean he couldn't lift his arms. He said he wanted to kill himself. They called in a psychiatrist who got 6 weeks of therapy billed to the government on the basis that he might kill himself. That's just plain crazy.

    I took part in Medical Ethics Seminars some years ago. One of the facts that came out was that something like 90% of the citizens in the US would not be able to say what their father would want (say like if he's paralyzed from the waist down, has Alzheimers, is in chronic pain from osteoarthritis) as opposed to what they, themselv would want. This is like when your kids are young and they buy you a present, it's something they would want for themselves, like a doll or a toy train. A little bit farther down the line they move to where they would get you something YOU like, like some perfume. Ultimately they may even notice what your favorite brand of perfume is, and get you that. (Some husbands never make it that far!)

    This is about the EQ competency of empathy.

    At any rate, the poll on msn.com is currently running
    77% think it's absolutely correct, an individual should be allowed to say, not the government.
    9% think it sounds right, the states should decide for themselves.
    3% think it's a bit much, and federal regulations should step in.
    10% think it is absolutely wrong, that law must protect human life always, at all costs.
    1% say they don't know.

    As to these results, please be sure and read this great article on how to interpret at poll and what msn thinks about this very one.

    Well, it's for sure it's a landmark decision. I have many thoughts and feelings about it myself. If it were on me to cast the deciding vote, I would have to give it a bit more thought.
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  • Sunday, January 15, 2006

    Woody Allen's Match Point


    There is so much food for thought in this article, and a call, in it's own way for emotional intelligence. "...[T]o be lost in an intellectual fog, trying to reason out the nature of things far larger than our minds. The intellect cannot go there, is the wrong tool..." writes Steven Barnes, in "Woody Allen's 'Match Point' (2005)".

    The very first line I ever heard Woody Allen speak was a joke on the Tonight show concerning theological issues, about how, during a divinity test, he cheated by "looking into the soul of the girl sitting next to me." I believe that he used a clip from such a stand up routine in one of his films, perhaps Annie Hall. I honestly don't remember. For decades, Woody has intertwined several basic themes: love and its yearnings. Faith. Talent and success. Human evil and the absence of God in the universe. And he does that thing that humor does: takes pain and fear, turns
    them inside out and makes us laugh. But behind the laughter has always been an extraordinarily keen mind and a troubled spirit.

    Most of us agree that his marriage to his own step-daughter was a sign of a damaged psyche. Of course, he'd been warning us for decades that he was damaged goods, hadn't he? It wasn't until "Bullets Over Broadway" in which a murderous hit-man is
    revealed as a theatrical genius, did it finally hit me that he was obsessed with the question of why evil is not punished in the universe. Why, in fact, success seems to have no connection to the purity of the soul.

    In "Crimes and Misdemeaners" he went further, encouraging us to empathize with a man capable of a terrible act.but that film sat on the fence, allowing us to argue about the right and wrong of things, rather than focusing us on the core question which has
    obviously chewed at his heart and mind since childhood.

    No such mistake in "Match Point." In this film, which I consider one of his very best ever, he tells the story of a social-climbing tennis pro (Jonathan Rhys Meyers) who marries the boss's daughter (Chloe Hewett Wilton) while harboring a passion for his future sister-in-law (Scarlett Johanssen). The bedroom farce takes a rather dark turn (to say the least), leading to an action which very few people could find other
    than utterly reprehensible on every conceivable level. And to a diabolically clever ending. The theme, announced from the very beginning is that few of us want to face the fact that so much of life is based on luck. Specifically, luck as opposed to

    But to skip over all further plot details to address this theme, I think it's something of an Easter Egg. Look deeper, and the question is not merely one of luck, but one that asks: "Is there a God in the Universe? If so, what is His nature, and
    why is he silent?"

    I can't help but think that Woody is asking the wrong question. If, as I suspect, on one level he believes human beings are shallow and evil, and that he himself has achieved massive wealth and fame while deeply flawed and (he suspects) evil in his personal life, then where is the justice in the universe.

    First of all, with this film, I found myself believing that Allen is a good man. Flawed, but good. The nature of the questions he has been asking his entire life, as opposed to what we know of his personal life, leads me to think him damaged but not damned. Just a personal opinion.

    Secondly, I think that the key is not in "why are the wicked not punished" but the question "what is the nature of a good, successful life"? He has taken a perfectly reasonable approach: a beautiful spouse, wealth, health, public acclaim are a good
    life. That evil men and women can achieve this must be deeply troubling to him.

    And troubles me not at all. It is possible of course that it is MY philosophy that is shallow, and his that cuts deep. I won't be self-congratulatory, or dogmatic enough to pat myself on the back, but I must stake out a position.

    So here it is. I think that external measurements of success are wonderful, but ultimately satisfying only if they match our internal values. And from the cradle, we crave connection to love, to warmth, to that total acceptance we felt from our
    mothers, in the womb if nowhere else. And that this craving is totally unconscious, and that we spend the rest of our lives attempting to regain it.

    When we sense that our own values and actions could be replicated by the entire world, to its benefit, I think that there is a sense of peace that simply cannot be put into words, a state of grace, of joy that those who have not experienced simply cannot believe in-as sociopaths cannot believe that human beings genuinely experience love and caring for one another. Such poor souls circle in the outer darkness. Say "I love you" to them, and they think "if only you knew what I really was, you wouldn't say that." Or worse, they think "poor, deluded fool, to feel such trivial, false emotions."

    Of COURSE it is possible to achieve acclaim, and fame, and health, and hot sex and be evil. Evil is a judgment about things on a spiritual level, not on the level of business (although in general, honesty pays in business) or marriage contracts (you can lie and cheat, and your mate may never discover it) or fitness/health (I've known tremendously fit and long-lived people who were monsters).

    Yet and still, Lifewriting asks us to embrace these three qualities as markers of inner worth. Why? Because they are the best, simplest external markers I know of. They are not infallible.

    On a personal level, I believe that when our inner values and our outer actions are in alignment, and when those actions and values are transparent, so that we would stand before all mankind and say: "this is who I am. And I would want my children, and your children to be the same, and I am prepared to stand before the universe and say that I would be willing and happy to be treated as I have treated others" that there is a simple peace that comes from this that cannot be replaced by money, or sex, or even life itself.

    Those who have been abused, neglected, uncherished, often do not develop the spiritual sensory equipment to find their way to this place. The armies of lethal children found in inner cities around the third world (and sometimes the first world)
    attest to this: they have not experienced love, and therefore have no ability to empathize, or care about much beyond survival and simple pleasures.

    What IS a good life? In my mind, the correct answer to this needs no God in the universe to punish the wicked, although a life lived in this fashion often opens an awareness (or to be fair, a belief) in the existence of the divine. To be separated
    from this sense is to be lost in an intellectual fog, trying to reason out the nature of things far larger than our minds. The intellect cannot go there, is the wrong tool. For decades Allen has tried to reason out his relationship with God, to understand the Holocaust in the framework of his childhood beliefs. I feel terribly sorry for him, and hope that he can forgive the world, and himself, in time to find peace in his life.

    But meanwhile, I'm going to enjoy his ruminations. They are brilliant, and heartfelt, and heartbreakingly honest at this point in his life. "Match Point" is another of the best films of 2005, one which, unfortunately, I didn't see until 2006.

    In retrospect, 2005 was one heck of a year for movies. I hope 2006 will be as fine.

    About The Author: N.Y. Times Bestselling writer Steven Barnes has lectured on story and consciousness from UCLA to the Smithsonian Institute. He is the creator of the Lifewriting whole body/mind writing system. Learn more at: http://www.lifewrite.com
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    Saturday, January 14, 2006

    Military Wisdom and EQ

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    "You, you, and you ... panic. The rest of you, come with me."
    - U.S. Marine Corp Gunnery Sgt.
    Making the rounds of the Internet, called Military Wisdom. Notice it's not called Military Intelligence. "Wisdom" is in the realm of emotional intelligence. Knowing the enemy is within range is intelligence. Knowing that means you are as well, is Emotional Intelligence.

    A slipping gear could let your M203 grenade launcher fire when you least expect it. That would make you quite unpopular in what's left of your unit."
    - Army's magazine of preventive maintenance.
    "Aim towards the Enemy."
    - Instruction printed on US Rocket Launcher
    "When the pin is pulled, Mr. Grenade is not our friend."
    - U.S. Marine Corps training manual
    "Cluster bombing from B-52s are very, very accurate. The bombs are guaranteed to always hit the ground."
    - USAF Ammo Troop
    "If the enemy is in range, so are you."
    - Infantry Journal
    "It is generally inadvisable to eject directly over the area you just bombed."
    - U.S. Air Force Pilot training manual
    "Whoever said the pen is mightier than the sword obviously never encountered automatic weapons."
    - General MacArthur
    "Try to look unimportant; they may be low on ammo."
    - Infantry Journal
    "Tracers work both ways."
    - U.S. Army Ordnance officer
    "Five second fuses only last three seconds."
    - Infantry Journal
    Bravery is being the only one who knows you're afraid."
    - David Hackworth
    "If your attack is going too well, your walking into an ambush."
    - Infantry Journal
    "No combat-ready unit has ever passed inspection."
    - Joe Gay
    "Any ship can be a minesweeper... once."
    - Anonymous
    "Never tell the Platoon Sergeant you have nothing to do."
    - Unknown Marine Recruit
    "Don't draw fire; it irritates the people around you."
    - Your Buddies
    "If you see a bomb technician running, follow him."
    - USAF Ammo Troop
    "Though I Fly Through the Valley of Death... I Shall Fear No Evil. For I am at 80,000 Feet and Climbing."
    - At the entrance to the old SR-71 operating base, Kadena, Japan
    "You've never been lost until you've been lost at Mach 3."
    - Paul F. Crickmore (test pilot)
    "The only time you have too much fuel is when you're on fire."
    "Blue water Navy truism: There are more planes in the ocean than submarines in the sky."
    --From an old carrier sailor
    "If the wings are traveling faster than the fuselage, it's probably a helicopter -- and therefore, unsafe."
    "When one engine fails on a twin-engine airplane you always have enough power left
    to get you to the scene of the crash."
    "What is the similarity between air traffic controllers and pilots? If a pilot screws up, the pilot dies; If ATC screws up, .... the pilot dies."
    "Never trade luck for skill."
    The three most common expressions (or famous last words) in aviation are: "Why is it doing that?", "Where the hell are we?" and "Oh Shit!"
    "Weather forecasts are horoscopes with numbers."
    "Progress in airline flying: now a flight attendant can get a pilot pregnant."
    "Mankind has a perfect record in aviation; we never left one up there!"
    "Flashlights are tubular metal containers kept in a flight bag for the purpose of storing dead batteries."
    "Flying the airplane is more important than radioing your plight to a person on the ground incapable of understanding or doing anything about it."
    "Just remember, if you crash because of weather, your funeral will be held on a sunny day."
    Advice given to RAF pilots during WWII: "When a prang (crash) seems inevitable, endeavor to strike the softest, cheapest object in the vicinity as slowly and gently as possible."
    "The Piper Cub is the safest airplane in the world; it can just barely kill you."
    - Attributed to Max Stanley (Northrop test pilot)
    "Never fly in the same cockpit with someone braver than you."
    "There is no reason to fly through a thunderstorm in peacetime."
    - Sign over squadron ops desk at Davis-Monthan AFB, AZ,
    "If something hasn't broken on your helicopter, it's about to."
    Basic Flying Rules: "Try to stay in the middle of the air. Do not go near the edges of it. The edges of the air can be recognized by the appearance of ground, buildings, sea, trees and interstellar space. It is much more difficult to fly there."
    As the test pilot climbs out of the experimental aircraft, having torn off the wings and tail in the crash landing, the crash truck arrives, the rescuer sees a bloodied pilot and asks, "What happened?". The pilot's reply: "I don't know, I just got here myself!"
    - Attributed to Ray Crandell (Lockheed test pilot)
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    Friday, January 13, 2006

    The Myth of the Midlife Crisis

    What a fabulous article, and bravo! for msn.com for featuring it.

    As a preventive health and EQ coach, about 50% of my practice is midlifers, and I'm here to tell you this article is right-on.

    I agree, and so my clients that at 40 the brains' best years are still ahead.

    As the author mentions, many people turn "right-brained" - - that's why all of a sudden your orthopedic surgeon has gone to New York City to take a course in movie making, and your friend, the engineer, is all into riding horses or helping children down at the shelter. As often happens, gender is a bias in any study, and it may be that what men and women are doing at midlife is balancing their brains, their lives and their futures.

    I've worked with hundreds of individuals who want to be able to access all the potential of their brain, to have the EQ knowledge to finally get their relationships and career up to speed, and who want to age well and prevent illness- - brain illness and decline including.

    I have a female client who is training to be a certified Preventive Health Coach in my EQ Alive! Program who wants to set the record for selling Arbonne. Previously she had was an interior designer.

    I have a male client, 65, who wants to find true love for the first time in his life. Living alone now, he says he has been close, and also had "it" for a short time, but now he wants "the full meal deal." "The purpose of life," he says, "is to love and be loved, and he's busy dating in town and on the Internet. Having made his millions, he is ready to learn more about his heart.

    Midlife is most certainly a transition, and in any transition we need highly developed emotional intelligence skills. EQ generally increases into the 50s, but not always and if you're in your 20s and 30s, why wait?

    Just like you should be taking care of your skin NOW, for the future, you should be taking care of your brain NOW, for the future.

    For the rest of this great article, go HERE.

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    Thursday, January 12, 2006

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    Foods like pizza and soda are harmful to the body because they have a tendency to increase the quantity of fat in the body, but they are also harmful to the overall health of the skin. Sodas in particular and foods with large quantities of fat induce acne, pimples, and patchy skin.

    Pimples can seem to a teenager like their worse nightmare. Apart from how they affect the appearance, pimples also increase the likelihood of permanent scarring to the skin. The treatment for aging and dry skin should effectively begin while you are still in your 20's. If viewed from a preventative perspective, the early treatment of aging and dry skin can save one years of anguish later. [See full line of acne products HERE. Used as a system, the effect is synergistic.]

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    As the collagen in our skin starts to deplete, the skin loses elastin, the substance that allows the skin to spring back into place. Dead skin is also not as quickly replaced and new skin cell turnover declines. All of these factors are genetically controlled and must be considered when deciding a treatment method for aging and dry skin.

    External factors, such as exposure to the sun leaves the skin vulnerable to heat, radiation and ultraviolet rays. Ultraviolet rays harm the skin and may also be a factor in the development of skin cancer. Over the years, just a few minutes' worth of exposure to the sun daily without protection can result in wrinkles, age spots, freckles, and patchy, rough skin.

    Prevention is key in treating aging and dry skin. Although you cannot erase the process of aging and turn it around, you can protect your skin and help it stay younger by following a few simple rules:

    - Avoid going into the sun between 10:00am to 4:00pm when the sun is at its strongest.
    - Wear a hat to protect your eyes, face and hair from the sun's rays.
    - Eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables.
    - Drink plenty of water

    All of these measures are beneficial for the skin. However if you feel that your skin needs more comprehensive treatment you should consider consulting a professional dermatologist who will advise you about the various skin treatments available. Some options may include lasers, radio frequency, chemical fillers,
    botox injections, and microdermabrasion.

    There are also consumer products on the market that are extremely effective in combating the signs of aging. Skin care specialists are making use of emerging scientific information about how to keep skin looking its best.

    A product called RejuvinolT from www.BODeStore.com can be a powerful weapon in the fight against aging says its makers. RejuvinolT is enhanced with advanced anti-oxidants and vitamins, which reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, and leaves skin firmer, younger-looking, more vibrant and healthier. Hyaluronic Acid, is included in the formula. It is a naturally occurring substance in the body, and one of the most effective moisturizing agents available.

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    This article is for general information purposes only. Before undertaking any exercise or treatment program always check first with your doctor and health professionals.

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    Tuesday, January 10, 2006

    Harp has power to soothe, but can it heal?


    During the research portion of the surgery procedure, the doctor stressed the patient's heart and then had the harpist play for 10 minutes and recorded the response. As predicted, the patient's heart rate slowed and became more regular during the music, and for a short period afterwards.

    When told after the surgery of what had happened, the patient said, "I didn't hear the music."

    "Your heart did," the doctor replied.

    When the patient's son heard there would be a harpist in the operating room, the son tossed off, "Is Gabriel going to be in there with the trumpet?"

    Learn more about celestial archetypes (angels) and their instruments here.

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    Monday, January 09, 2006

    Harp has power to soothe, but can it heal?

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    QUESTION: Why is it an archetype that in heaven there are angels playing harps?

    ANSWER: Read on.

    In Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music, one of our EQ outreach and educational projects (free to all subscribers), we realize the soothing and healing powers of music.

    As one listener wrote to AllClassical.org, which is FR** and we highly recommend it: "I've been hearing you and the other announcers talk about listening at work. I agree that classical music helps me keep psychologically and emotionally more even keel while I work as a freelance journalist.

    "Today I was on an espcially tight deadline and couldn't mess around. Having classical music playing at my desk and in my car helps keep in check my natural tendency to stress out. Keep up the good work on 89.9 FM."

    We direct you today to an article on msn entitled, "Harp has power to soothe, but can it heal? Instrument shows potential to synchronize irregular heartbeats."

    Jennifer MacKinnon, a physician with a degree in music played the harp for a patient under sedation while doctors observed the effects on heart rhythm in what was aptly described as "some weird sci-fi melding of heaven and high-tech Earth." The
    patient had afibrillation, irregular heart-beat.

    Interest was whetted when Dr. Ary Goldberger of Harvard Medical School proposed the theory that varied rhythms created by healthy hearts are similar to note patterns in classical music. This impelled Kocheril and MacKinnon to research the notion that music can alleviate some of the mental and physical symptoms of disease.

    Bravo! At Club Vivo, we know for sure a tonic of classical music adheres to the first dictum of medicine, the Hoppocratic Oath: "First of all, do no harm."

    “'People know that music relaxes you. We’re just trying to get more medical validation,' said Dr. MacKinnon... She took up harp-playing at age 10 and as a child, used to play for patients of her father, also a physician."

    We discuss in Club Vivo, the common association of healing and music, represented by the archetype of Apollo, the Greek god of Medicine and Music. What's being discussed now was known centuries ago. That's what an archetype is all about, and it is an archetype as well that angels in heaven play harps. I suspect this goes back to the lyre, and what Orpheus was able to do with his, but more on this later.

    Some believe the harp has special propensity for healing because the resonant vibrations from live harp music may be particularly effective at regulating
    quivering heart rhythms. [Note it says "live" harp music."]

    Koceril thinks other musical instruments and recorded music might offer similar benefits which would make a “music prescription” more doable. "Potentially, there could be a prescription for music five days a week ... to keep the heart healthy in general and specifically to keep rhythm disorders under control."

    There is at least one music therapist who offers her clients an hour of her own live harp playing. She uses it to relieve chronic pain, such as that from osteoarthritis and fibromyalgia.

    Bizarre to me, a doctor dislikes the inclusion in the operating room of "the elegant but unwieldy harp" when the room is already accommodating a rash of unwieldy and not elegant equipment.

    And being of the right brain sort, well whole-brained, I immediately jump to the hypothesis (which is simply a learning-based speculation which research must go on to "prve") that, knowing doctors as I do, and their affinity for music, the presence of harp playing in the operating room would definitely help the physicians and what helps your doctor helps you, as they are, like it not, known to be a factor in your healing. Not just their hands, but their personalities, their presence. (We recommend and offer a version of the EQ Alive! Program for physicians. Please refer this information.)
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    The more you're comfortable with music, the more it can help. Common sense (EQ) would advise that, if you're puzzling about the Italian in "Ave Maria" or "Va'Pensiero" two of the most soothing/inspiring works there are, you won't be relaxed. Learn more. The more you know ... the more you know.
    Now, the Celtic harp music has long enchanted me, and we know that the Irish claim the kingdom of lullabies, which is a heaven unto itself. And what is a lullaby, but the soothing of the most distraught person there is - - a newborn trying to adjust to living on dry land. The Irish have no contenders in the realm of lullabies. My favorite it The Garten Mother's Lullaby. [See the newborns in the Kosica-Saca hospital in eastern Slovakia enjoying Mozart through headsets, because, said Slavka Viragov√°, the doctor in charge of the hospital's maternity unit, who launched the music project, the birth trauma is "enormously stressful for the baby." Makes me wish they could hear harp, and Celtic lullabies too. or Rachmaninoff (see below**)]

    We recommend My Gentle Harp: Celtic Favorites. Listen to "The Harp that Once Through Tara's Halls." To order, go HERE or copy and paste: http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?t=zglqxrbab.0.0.ym9zae57.0&p=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fexec%2Fobidos%2Fredirect%3Ftag%3Dsusandunnmome-20%26creative%3D373653%26camp%3D210949%26link_code%3Dst1%26adid%3D1YG5YPP9EJV5NYQJAHE4%26path%3DASIN%2FB00000IMU8.

    In Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music, we're learning more about music and EQ and we invite you to join us today. It's free. My gift to you!

    Club Vivo Per Lei is dedicated to a physician, Dr. John J. Alifano, Jr., who practises in Massachusetts, and is an accomplished pianist. His favorite composer is **Rachmaninoff, for listening, and also he plays it beautifully. Many may not claim Rachmaninoff to necessarily be their "favorite" (Beethoven is the King!), but many consider it the most healing. On Club Vivo you will find an article written by a physician about a patient's use of Rachmaninoff (also spelled Rachmaninov.)

    ON ARKIV MUSIC YOU CAN PICK UP AN AFFORDABLE CD OF RACHMANINOV AND GIVE IT A TRY. (Or copy and paste: http://www.arkivmusic.com/classical/100.jsp?AID=10277616&PID=1814374).

    P.S. Beethoven continually tops surveys. Is he your favorite? Let us know. Take the Music Survey. Your opinion counts.
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