Bullying and Mobbing

HUMILIATION

Yes, they say you choose being angry or not, and you can choose who can embarass you, and who can demean or humilitate you. It's true, but it's also an ideal. It's the reaction you can choose, with age, and with practice. The emotions are what they are.

Part of living in a society is having a conscience, and along with this comes "shame". It's also part of learning ... at first you can't do it, then you start learning and get it right some of the time.

For some people, making a mistake, or doing it wrong, or having egg on your face is very shaming, and for others not so much, for we all have our moments.

There is also the humiliation and disrespect that others choose to inflict.

Because I work in emotional intelligence, I hear the stories. I heard one story today about a boy who was humiliated by a teacher in front of his middle school class. I observed another situation where a middle-aged employee was humiliated in front of her co-workers. I received an email from an individual beseiged by "mobbing" at work -- when a group of bullies hiding behind sabotage, email, innuendo and gossip try to drive someone out (usually the best worker-type).

I don't like it. For them -- for you -- for all of us --

"The horror of that moment," the King went on,
"I shall never, never forget!"
"You will, though," the Queen said,
"if you don't make a memorandum of it."
~ Lewis Carroll

Some bullies bully and mob because that's who they are. Others have learned this behavior and don't know what else to do.

EVERYONE DESERVES RESPECT AND DESERVES TO LEARN HOW TO RESPECT OTHERS, IF THEY WERE NOT TAUGHT THIS LIFESKILL. It's important to understand that these are learned behaviors. They are behaviors that make others miserable, but also the one who does them. What has been learned can be unlearned, and new behaviors that work, and make the world better for all of us, can be put in their place.
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To all the bullies out there, and you know you you are: Learn some EQ and quit picking on other people because you feel so inadequate yourself! If you cannot manage your own emotions to the extent you have to make others miserable, and make the general environment unpleasant and unproductive, why not learn some real lifeskills that work? You don't have to live consumed by anger, jealousy and fear. There's a better way, and we offer it.

WE DON'T CURSE THE DARKNESS, WE LIGHT A CANDLE, and it's right here in the EQ Alive! Program. Most people who take the program do come alive, in the best sort of way. They use words like "This was the missing piece." One woman wrote, "I feel alive again. I've got my life back. Thank you."

Read Susan's latest ebook, "Mobbing and Bullying: What It Is, What You Can Do About It"

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