Monday, September 29, 2008
I've said it before and I'll say it again - the financial market, which SHOULD be rational and logical, is the most emotional thing going on.
And why this fall?
Because we do not like uncertainty.
One reason to study emotional intelligence is because you can't make a rational decision if you don't understand what's going on emotionally. Much of what goes on in offices, between people, between countries, in marriages is emotionally based. It's part of the data.
If you've been in the market as long as I have - not to mention the real experts out there - this is to be expected. It happened after 9/11. I was in for "Black Friday." The real diehards will be saying, "Now's the time to get IN."
The knee-jerk reaction when something falls through and becomes unclear (like the negotiations) is panic, and this is what we are seeing. Is it smart to get out of the market now? Can you even think clearly about it?
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Friday, September 26, 2008
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Yes, it's the time of abundance, but if you're on a budget, stick to it and avoid some stress and guilt. It's the emotionally intelligent thing to do!
1. Know your portions.
2. Take good care of the bird right after dinner.
3. Plan your leftovers.
4. Grocery shop the day after Thanksgiving.
5. Pay for convenience when it counts.
6. Consider alternatives.
7. Make your own stuffing.
8. Decorations? Festive wear?
9. Don't forget about potluck.
10. Trompe l'oeil, it's called in France -- fool the eye.
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Monday, September 22, 2008
From The EQ Coach about emotional intelligence
If you want to be a logical and reasonable person, where does "emotional intelligence" fit in?
Lets face it, there are some professions that pride themselves in not being "emotional." Doctors, lawyers, CPAs and engineers come to mind. When I mention "emotional intelligence" they can't see how it would apply to them.
The truth is that the higher up you get in a field - or WANT to - the more you are going to need emotional intelligence to go along with those wonderful logic and intellectual skills and training and degrees.
Why? Because you can't make logical decisions about something you don't know anything about. And most decisions involved people! You may decide, for instance, that the corporation needs a new LAN ... but you're going to have to CONVINCE someone of that.
You may sit down logically and plan your talk to the jury, but you are going to be lost if you can't read their reactions to what you are saying as you deliver the speech.
You can't be an effective surgeon in the operating room if the nurse at your side makes you angry.
Emotional intelligence includes things like focus, managing your own emotions, understanding the emotions of others, "gut feelings," nonverbal communication and many other things that LOGIC CANNOT TELL YOU.
In fact most of the most important decisions in life cannot be made by logic alone. At some point, the data will run out.
Let take the example of the stock market right now, with the state of the US economy. What should you do with your investments at this point? When will the stock market 'come back'? Should you run to treasury bills? CDs? Try and hit the low point and get back in the market?
If you read the experts, you will get conflicting opinions.
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Wednesday, September 17, 2008
"Don't wait for someone to take you under their wing. Find a good wing and climb up underneath it." - Frank C. Bucaro
If you need a wing, that's what coaches are for. I love to support people in their goals, help them generate options and alternatives, get from A to Z, make good transitions, improve relationships - and many other important things.
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Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Friday, September 05, 2008
"Tension is who you think you should be.
Susan Dunn, M.A.
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Wednesday, September 03, 2008
Emotional Intelligence/Moral Compass
excerpt from Tom Clark, CTV Washington Bureau Chief as it appeared in CTV.ca
"Sarah Palin knew her daughter was pregnant ... Palin needs to tell Americans why that was an acceptable choice, and more, she needs to tell voters what it says about her moral and ethical compass."
I must add here, do we need to have HER tell us what it means. Do we not sense it from the action? That having been said ...
Some say the moral compass is hardwired. I find this untenable ... it certainly isn't hardwired in all humans, or we wouldn't have murderers, thieves and child abusers. It's the nature/nuture controvery scientists are always dealing with. (Pyschology 101 informs that it is usually both.)
Where do we get a sense of right and wrong? Obviously from our parents. And its their BEHAVIOR we observe, not their words. Obviously from some sort of limbic wiring as well. Reptiles eat their young if hungry. Humans do not.
I believe it is related to our feelings. Behind every behavior is a feeling. There are times when our feelings conflict. It is then that the moral/ethical compass comes in to play.
There's an old exercise in Philosophy 101 - the man's child will die without the medicine so he steals it. The Final Exam Question is: "Is this wrong?? (Please discuss is also added, of course)
Emotional intelligence involves learning how the brains (plural) work ... it includes a good deal of etiquette ... it implies moral and ethical behavior. Intentionality, for instance - saying what you mean and meaning what you say; doing what you say you will do. At least my EQ course does.
A small example - recently I was interviewed by a major magazine about "the etiquette of tipping." The interviewer asked me many questions beginning, "But is it wrong to ..."
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Tuesday, September 02, 2008
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