Inspiration for Hard Times

The tiniest changes yield massive results. Tony Robbins.

All About Emotions

Emotional Intelligence means being aware of and able to identify your emotions, i.e., how you feel. Margaret Loris, the SunHealer, has made a neat podcast about emotions. She says:

Let your emotions flow…
Want more emotional intelligence?
Here is a transmission of 300 emotions that will expand your awareness of how you feel.
As you learn to identify and name your emotions, you grow and become more skilled at creating more of the emotions you desire.

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Know what game you're playing

Listen to Mickey Rourke about training for "The Wrestler". Keep this in mind if you're having to start anything new - career, job, relationship, etc. He had to UNlearn one thing in order to learn another.

Tips:

In boxing you're taught to hide everything
Broke every rule I was ever taught
The actual grunting was real
Like ping pong and rugby, completely different sports
With wrestling, it's all choreographed like a dance ... you work with the other person
What I really didn't know was, you do actually get hurt
Got hurt more in 3 months at wrestling, than a career in boxing
It does hurt ... I was so glad when the movie was over
The best movie I ever made, and the hardest movie I ever made

The last quote reminds me of something the minister I worked with, John McMullen, would tell people when he was convincing them to take a volunteer job, over which they protested that it would be "too hard" -- He would say something like -- This will be the most challenging thing you can do, and therefore the most rewarding.

How to Respond to Change

How to handle change? Something we all need to remember, or learn, these days.

Brett Steenbarger is the author of "The Psychology of Trading" and has an interesting blog called TraderFeeding. One post is about Emotional Intelligence and Trading.

From what I glean, Steenbarger doesn't want to be quoted ("republicated") so I won't. But read his blog. It's interesting. Topics include Listening as a Core Trading Skill, Following the Stock Market like a Psychologist: Catching Shifts in Market Behavior, and Trading and Mental Flexibility.

One can liken Emotional Intelligence to being able to adjust to shifts. It's more than that, but it includes that.

Steenbarger points out that -- this is a relief! -- we don't have to be able to PREDICT shifts (in the market, in our lives, in others), just be able to identify them in a timely manner, process them correctly, and respond to them.

One of his commentators writes that getting to know the stock market is like getting to know someone. That you can't learn about it in a book.

Good stuff on this blog. Check it out. I imagine his books are fascinating as well.

For those who eschew "emotions" - which is silly, since they are always there, and the moreso when ignored - I've always maintained that the stock market, considered the bastion of the non-emotional-male, is one of the most emotional things around. (Emotions give us information.)

Notice how one optimistic word from Bernanke and the US stock market rises -- and also the Asian markets.

Every time I read dire forecasts, I see the lemmings going over the cliff.

Take note - leaders, parents, CEOs, bosses - the power of your "predictions".

To learn more about Emotional Intelligence, take The EQ Course(tm). It's online.

How to Manage Change in Hard Times: Don't Micro-Manage

Micro-Managing breeds more distrust ...

On the Project Management blog, Jonathan Gilbert, PMP, director of client solutions for ESI International talks about Managing Change Through a Downturn:

“Trust needs to be the underlying environment in any change initiative,” advises Gilbert. “Currently, there is a paucity of trust in organisations, as organisational members question the need for downsizing, and organisation leaders wonder how hard everyone is really working. My experience tells me that when times get tough, leaders tend to deal with the massive disequilibrium of tough times by micro-managing, which breeds even more distrust.”

Read the article for Gilbert's three steps for successful change initiatives.

Gilbert then lists his four top skills for improving your abilities to manage change successfully:

1. Deep listening: the ability to hear and empathise with the people being impacted by the change
2. Emotional intelligence: a facility to understand the physiological, neurological and emotional responses that we all have to change in our lives
3. Questioning: the ability to ask questions that allow people to have their own insights about what the change really means (as a leader, you cannot tell people what insights they should have – they have to arrive at them on their own)
4. Patience: an ability to suspend urgency for a time while people work through their responses to change because everyone will adapt to change at different rates.

Good words. To improve your emotional intelligence, take The EQ Course.

Difficult People

Things you can use:

One way to raise a person's awareness of and honesty about their own behavior without causing undue shame is to ask them, in the context of their complaints and criticisms about others: "Did you make your needs explicit?"

McWilliams, Psychoanalytic Diagnosis

Emotional Intelligence starts with self-awareness.

A Scientist& Violinist Spends His Last Days with a 10-time AWA World Heavyweight Wrestling Champion

Pallas et le Centaure: C'est un sensuel, un brutal, un débauché, un violent ...
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In the newspaper today:

HEADS UP when you're on the Internet.

90,000 registered sex offenders were found to have MySpace profiles, and the site removed their profiles.

5,585 convicted sex offenders were voluntarily removed by Facebook.

This gives you an idea of the size and nature of the two sites. It is also a cautionary tale for those who play on the Internet.
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BEAUTY AND THE BEAST (under investigation and "alleged" at this point)

In a story that almost could have been from a movie, by some cruel twist of fate, a research scientist and symphony violinist who fled Nazi Germany, ends up rooming at a place called Friendship Village with a former 10-time AWA World Heavyweight wrestling champion who had also been drafted by a pro football team and inducted into the WWE Hall of Fame.

The two do not get along, they fight, and the scientist/musician ends up dead.

While the investigation centers around Gagne, as contributing, it is doubtful he would be charged because of his "mental state." He has, however, been dismissed from the living facility.

What seems to have been missed here, is that someone allowed these two men to be roommates, when it was known that they didn't get along, and that the younger man (by 15 years) had been a professional athlete, while the older man was a cultured intellectual; a man of Arts and Science. In fact, Gutmann did not retire from his job as a cancer research scientist until he was already in his 80s. He played violin for 12 years with the Bloomington Symphone Orchestra.

Wikipedia says it is also speculated that Gagne, in addition to dementia, might had had chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE) caused by a lifetime of head injuries. His claim to fame was the sleeper hold.

R.I.P., Herr Doctor Gutmann. I cannot think but that his last days were filled with fear and anxiety.

And our hearts go out to both familes, for a misfortune which never should have happened.

Etiquette for an Economic Crisis

How to Tell Friends and Family You Can't Afford it - a timely video.

Trying times - what's going on right now - means brushing up on your etiquette.

One good tip from the video - When you talk about the job you lost, be sure you're rid of all the anger.

For the listener, I would add - keep in mind, at the top of your mind that more and more people may be short on funds these days. Think before you issue an invitation. Bear in mind that they may not be able to afford what you can, or what they previously could. In other words be sensitive to their situation.

TIPS

Don't suggest the priciest restaurant in town. And make it gracious. "Lets meet for dinner. How about the XXX Buffet? I'm ready to RELAX ... how about you? In other words, offer a "reason." It doesn't have to be that believable. Just offer it.

Offer to treat the other person. Why not? I heard my sister tell someone she was treating, because they didn't have any money, 'Your money's no good here.'

For a charitable donation? I'm sorry I can't do it right now, but thanks for asking.

If you're the lucky one in the family (or social set) who "has" when someone else "has not" be generous. Why not?

In our family we had a wedding in the fall in another state. One family member doesn't have enough money to travel. Her invitation included a check to cover airfare with just a note "We expect you to come."

Made it nice, palatable, classy.

Perspective - on the Employment Crisis, or Anything Else

Thoughts for today come from the emailbag. My clients and correspondents are savvy and practice learned optimism:

From Nancy, who has started a group to help people who suddenly find themselves without a job:

Despite high unemployment rates, major job losses and decreasing employment numbers, the latest numbers from the Bureau of Labor Statistics showed 22 states recording measurably lower unemployment rates than the national average -- 7.2 percent -- in December 2008.

Wyoming recorded the lowest unemployment rate, 3.4 percent, followed closely by North Dakota, at 3.5 percent. Total employment increased in only one state, Louisiana, and the District of Columbia. Louisiana improved by 3,700 and employment in the District of Columbia increased by 100.

From Richard:

But many emotions are "caused" by the intellect (as opposed to immediate stimuli). All anxiety about the future, for instance, is simply reactions to scenarios invented by the mind and played out in the imagination. There's no intelligence in THOSE emotions. They are just responding to stimuli produced by the intellect without any connnection to what is "really" happening. You feel emotions in response to what is happening and to what you think might happen, or did happen, or what you thought happened, or want happen, or wanted to happen.

From Laura:

Abrasive executives rub their coworkers the wrong way. Their words and actions create interpersonal friction that grates on subordinates, peers, and superiors, grinding away at trust and motivation, inflicting deep wounds and disrupting the smooth flow of work. The management styles of abrasive executives include one or more of the following characteristic behaviors: overcontrol, overreaction, threats, public humiliation, and/or condescension.

Trade Routes

Woodcutting of the formation of the Hanseatic League, around 1241 (left). Below, a map of the trading route of the Hanseatic League.

THE IMPORTANCE OF TRADE ROUTES

The Hanseatic league was a collection of traders, merchants and guilds, who traded goods and bartered and negotiated for trade routes, terrifs, entrance into new ports and countries, and so forth. My ancestor on one side of the family, the Stolterfohts, were members of the Hanseatic League.
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ABOUT THOSE THINGS WE TAKE FOR GRANTED ... where they come from and how we get them.

How to Attract a Man? Well, the perfume makers would have you believe it's in the scent you wear. And the scent that is the greatest aphrodisiac for males is ...?

Fragrances began with frankinscense and myrrh, and spices, which were not available all over the world. As traders brought them to new places they were immediately desired (like silk from China) and the demand was created. The early traders and merchants then worked to meet this demand, and to make money in the process. Some of the early spices and herbs may also have been, or have been considered, medicinal or aphrodisiacal.

At first only the very rich could afford these wonderful things.

Ever wonder where that cinnamon on your Cinnabon comes from? The cinnamon on the top of your Tiramisu ... your cinnamon toast ... the thing that makes apple pie apple pie ... the scent that is said to be the greatest turnon for men .. ?

According to the Food and Agriculture Organization of the United Nations this is the source of World Spice Production in tons, 2003–2004, data from FAOSTAT:

India 1 600 000 86%
China 66 000 4%
Bangladesh 48 000 3%
Pakistan 45 300 2%
Turkey 33 000 2%
Nepal 15 500 1%
Other countries 60 900 3%
Total 1 868 700 100%

In the early days, trade routes were established to make money. Asia for instance had spices and knew that Europe wanted them. The way they got from place to place was called a trade route. Some were by land, others were by sea.

Successful trade required many talents. One of them was knowing how to get along, negotiating with other parties, and petitioning the rules of the territories they wanted to enter. Many trade negotiations, treaties and agreements were formed that precluded war.

According to wikipedia:

Hansa societies worked to remove restrictions to trade for their members. For example, the merchants of the Cologne Hansa convinced Henry II of England to free them (1157) from all tolls at London and allowed them to trade at fairs throughout England.

Lübeck was a key location. On the Baltic, it provided trade access for to Scandinavia and Kiev Rus, which put it in direct competition with the Scandinavians who at that time controlled most of the Baltic trade routes. They achieved a treaty - or agreement - with the Visby Hansa which put an end to cthe ompetition. In the same agreement, the Lübeck merchants gained access to the inland Russian port of Novgorod, where they built a trading post or Kontor. Other such alliances formed throughout the Holy Roman Empire. ... The League primarily traded timber, furs, resin (or tar), flax, honey, wheat, and rye from the east to Flanders and England with cloth (and, increasingly, manufactured goods) going in the other direction. Metal ore (principally copper and iron) and herring came southwards from Sweden.

The precious cinnamon? The spice trade drove the world economy from the late Middle Ages well into modern times. Modern times? It's probably never occurred to you ... but how would you like to go without cinnamon, nutmeg, salt, sugar?? In fact, the early trade routes were also called Incense Routes.

From wikipedia:

Spices such as cinnamon, cassia, cardamom, ginger, and turmeric were known, and used for commerce, in the Eastern World well into antiquity. These spices found their way into the Middle East before the beginning of the Common Era, where the true sources of these spices was withheld by the traders, and associated with fantastic tales. The Egyptians had traded in the Red Sea, importing spices from the "Land of Punt" and from Arabia. Luxury goods traded along the Incense Route included Indian spices, ebony, silk and fine textiles.

The spice trade was associated with overland routes early on but maritime routes proved to be the factor which helped this trade grow. The Ptolemaic dynasty had eveloped trade with India using the Red Sea ports. With the establishment of Roman Egypt, the Romans further developed the already existing trade. As early as 80 BC, Alexandria became the dominant trading center for Indian spices entering the Greco-Roman world. Indian ships sailed to Egypt. The thriving maritime routes of Southern Asia were not under the control of a single power, but through various systems eastern spices were brought to the major spice trading port of Calicut in India.

Overland routes helped the spice trade initially, but maritime trade routes led to tremendous growth in commercial activities. During the high and late medieval periods Muslim traders dominated maritime spice trading routes throughout the Indian Ocean ... shipping spices from trading emporiums in India westward to the Persian Gulf and the Red Sea, from which overland routes led to Europe.

The trade was transformed by the European Age of Discovery, during which spice trade became an influential activity for European traders.

The discovery of the American continent was driven by the spice trade. The United East India Company forged alliance with the principal producers of cloves and nutmeg. The growing competition led to rival nations resorting to military means for control of the spice trade.

Early uses (answers.com) also included medicinal, magical, symbolic, for washing, for masking bad odors, and for repelling insects:

The statuesque herb angelica has been used in pagan and Christian festivals for centuries. It is indigenous to cold northern Europe, and its name is derived from a legend in which an angel appears to a monk in a dream and tells him this plant can cure the plague. It was also believed that angelica protected a person carrying it against witches and their spells. Other sweet herbs such as lavender and rosemary sweetened washing water to scent clothes and, strewed around rooms, repelled insects and masked unpleasant smells.

So, next time your smell the cinnamon bun as you drive by Whataburger, think of .. a world of things. The scent comes from the essential oils - bet you use this too. And black pepper, we haven't metioned that. It's a spice. One I could't live without. Answer.com lists the origin of spices and herbs -- nutmeg (Indonesia), ginger (Asia), cloves (Mollucas), cinnamon (Sri Lanka), allspice (West Indies), . Not a one is grow on the North American continent.

And perhaps the most popular (and under-noticed of all) >> VANILLA. Ta da! Some vanilla is grown in Florida.

About the Personalities of Joe Biden and Barack Obama, and about Etiquette

THE QUALITY OF MERCY IS NOT STRAINED is the frequent quote of a gentleman lawyer friend of mine, a man with real social grace, emotional intelligence, and etiquette. It has to do with the exercise of power and the example one sets. Mr. Valdez, you see, is named partner in a law firm.

The article, by Maureen Dowd, is called Oval Newlywed Game. It uses old terminology - the superego and the id:

It can’t be easy, for someone with a highly defined superego to be bound to the wacky Biden id, for one so disciplined to be tied to one so undisciplined, for a man so coolly unsentimental to be paired with someone so exuberantly sentimental.

I love Dowd. οἱ πολλοί ... id ... Jane Austen ... all in one article. And hoi polloi is spelled correctly, not surprisingly.

The article points the different personalities of these men, which is to say, their brains are different. Is this about right-brain, left-brain and whole-brain? Personality, they say, resides in the reptilian brain - our early-learned and ever-enduring (unless one wants to change) ways of perceiving the world, reacting to it, and relating to it. We can ameliorate these ancient patterns, with the higher brains - the limbic and the neo-cortex (right-brain and left-brain, with corpus callosum joining). I might say that Obama has more of an observing ego. And who has the higher emotional intelligence here? The better etiquette?

But the POINT of Dowd's article is all about emotional intelligence and etiquette. For Obama will have to deal with these aspects of Biden's personality, and how he does this will say more about him (superego notwithstanding) than about Biden. Obama has been noted to respond, in interviews, with what Dowd calls "snarky comments" (like "not surprisingly"). Writes Dowd:

It was the “not surprisingly” that was surprisingly snarky.

So snarky, that it's being parodied on SNL, which is brutal about that sort of thing. What more can I say?

The remedy, the etiquette, how a gentleman behaves? What we all know about situations like these. Dowd closes with:

Still, the president should brush up on his Jane Austen. When Emma
Woodhouse belittles Miss Bates, an older and poorer friend, at a picnic, Mr.
Knightly pulls her aside to remonstrate. “How could you be so insolent in your
wit?” he chides, reminding her that it is unfeeling to humble someone less
fortunate in front of others who will be guided by the way she behaves.

That’s how it works ... not surprisingly.

Jane Austen? I'm afraid many readers won't have read Jane Austen, the author of "Emma." This is from the time of 'comedies of manners.' From wikipedia:

Also, it turns out, [Emma] ... is rather spoiled; and, she overvalues her personal judgment and skills...and, she is naive —clueless, even— about the effects of her social machinations on others. Prior to starting the novel, Austen wrote, "I am going to take a heroine whom no-one but myself will much like."

Unlike me, as well, I hope. And you?

Remember ... others are watching. Especially when you're the Leader. They will be "guided by the way [you] behave."

Executive coach, Susan Dunn, M.A., Dallas

Even Monkeys have a Sense of Fairness

MORAL COMPASS

"Personal integrity is important, not because it gets us what we want, but because it helps us be what we want." - Michael Josephson

Monkeys have a Sense of Morality - London, Press Trust of India

I was in a store today that I frequently visit. Two of the employees were talking, one of them very angry, and I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard the word "fair." The one young man said he was giving his notice that day, that their manager had been "unfair" - giving others less hours, more time off, arranging things to suit others and making him take up the slack, and not appreciating his hard work. The other agreed and said she would quit when she could. Every one of us who frequents the store knows what good workers these two are; far better than the others who work there, and this certainly indicates low emotional intelligence on the part of the manager.

IF 'EVEN' MONKEYS HAVE A SENSE OF FAIRNESS ...
Perhaps you're a boss or owner who can't keep good workers ... Perhaps you're an employee who can't believe how unfair your manager is ... or why it matters to you so much (or if it should) ... How important is FAIRNESS?

From the article "Monkeys have a Sense of Morality" reporting on the research of Prof Frans de Waal of Emory University in Georgia:

**Both monkeys and apes can make judgments about fairness
**Both monkeys and apes offer altruistic help and empathize when a fellow animal is ill or in difficulties
**Both monkeys and apes have consciences as well as the rudimentary ability to remember obligations

The animals were asked to perform a set of simple tasks and then rewarded with food or affection...The study found that the animals had an acute sense of fairness and objected strongly when others were rewarded more than themselves for the same task, often sulking and refusing to take part any further....

Another experiment looked at altruism in chimps -- it found they were often willing to help others even when there was no obvious reward. "Chimpanzees spontaneously help both humans and each other in carefully controlled tests," he said.

Perhaps most heartening of all:

"Everything else being equal, they prefer to reward a companion together with themselves rather than just themselves ... [T]he research suggests that giving is self-rewarding for monkeys," De Waal said.

One Love, One Heart, Let's Get Together and Feel Alright

Playing for Change: Peace Through Music
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Let's Get It On

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A Valentine's/Friday the 13th/Economic Crisis/Job searching/Moving Gift for You - FREE Mini-Course on Finger Healing

<----This is the Vitarka Mudra. You probably know of the benefits of finger tapping, and the healing properties of mudras. The Vitarka Mudra (mudra of discussion) is made by joining the tips of the thumb and the index together, keeping the other fingers straight, and turning the palm outward. (as pictured).

The Jnana Mudra ("mudra of knowledge), which you'll see and learn about in the OBAMA VIDEO, also known as "pure awareness free of conceptual emcumbrances", is done by touching the tips of the thumb and index finger together, forming a circle. The hand is held with the palm inward, toward the heart.

Click HERE for FREE Mini-course on Finger Healing.

Whatever the stress - Valentine's Day, Friday the 13th, loss of job, fear about economy, that lover who won't make a committment, public speaking, or a root canal ... finger tapping and finger healing can help.

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Watch this video on how Obama uses some of these gestures while speaking. It looks like he is doing the Vitarka Mudra in this opening shot. What do you think? (also described as combining spirituality and physicality, asking for aid from above)



Don't miss my article in TIME MAGAZINE. Susan Dunn, Executive Coach in Dallas ... "Are Hugs the New Handshakes".

As stated in the article, "...last month ...[Obama] bestowed no fewer than nine hugs on senior male staffers at a single meeting."

Susan Dunn Executive Coach in Time article

There's a hug, and then there's a hug

Susan Dunn, M.A., Executive Coach, is quoted in Time Magazine, Are Hugs the New Handshakes?,
By Laura Fitzpatrick

And let's not forget the increasing popularity of workplace hugs, which can be especially confusing, notes Susan Dunn, an executive coach in Dallas. "I have to say, 'O.K., there's a hug, and then there's a hug,'" she notes, the kind that can get HR involved.

For executive coaching, contact me at sdunn@susandunn.cc.
Coaching in etiquette also available.

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http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1879201,00.html?iid=perma_share

Koala Love Story Brings Hope after Australian Fires

Love Heals ... Koala Love Story Wins Hearts after Deadly Fires in Australia
Watch the koala bear extend its hand when help arrives ...

See story here.

Rescuers said it was extremely rare to get so close to a koala. If you've ever tried to help a harmed or injured animal, you know that some will and some won't. The same with humans. Sam recognized help when it arrived and reached out for it. And therefore she will survive. Also with the help of her now love, Bob.

Said Tree, the rescuer:

"I yelled out for some water and I sat down with her and tipped the water up. It was in my hand and she reached for the bottle then put her right claw into my left hand which was cold so it must have given her some pain relief and she just left it there. It was just amazing."

Sometimes we need a rest from the battlefield. Read about the Retreats offered by Executive Coach Dorothy Larios, so aptly named The Rest of Your Life.

"A Retreat is: a time to withdraw from all the distractions and responsibilities in the world; a place and time to get re-acquainted with yourself; a solitary space for renewal, a safe haven, a snug den or a refuge."

Koalas are so much a part of life in Australia.

clipped from gutenberg.net.au

BLINKY BILL

TOLD & ILLUSTRATED BY DOROTHY WALL

THE NEW ARRIVAL

The bush was alive with excitement. Mrs Koala had a brand new baby, and
the news spread like wildfire. The kookaburras in the highest gum-trees
heard of it, and laughed and chuckled at the idea. In and out of their
burrows the rabbits came scuttling, their big brown eyes opening wide
with wonder as they heard the news. Over the grass the message went
where Mrs Kangaroo was quietly hopping towards her home. She fairly
leapt in the air with joy. "I must tell Mr Kangaroo!" she cried and
bounded away in great hops and leaps. Even Mrs Snake, who was having a
nap, awoke, gave a wriggle, and blinked her wicked little eyes. The
whole bushland was twittering with the news, for a baby bear was a great
event. Mrs Koala had a baby every two years, and as Mrs Rabbit had
very, very many during that time, you can just imagine how surprised
everyone was. In the fork of a gum-tree, far above the ground, Mrs Koala
nursed her baby

FBI Investigates Corporate Fraud

With the $50 billion Ponzi scheme of Madoff, and other fraud in the markets, it's time to try something different.

clipped from news.yahoo.com

The FBI is conducting more than 500 investigations of corporate fraud amid the financial meltdown.

FBI Deputy Director John Pistole is describing the bureau's efforts to the Senate Judiciary Committee.

Pistole says there are 530 active corporate fraud investigations, and 38 of them involve corporate fraud and financial institution matters directly related to the economic crisis.

Also appearing before the committee is Neil Barofsky, the watchdog of the government's $700 billion Wall Street rescue package passed last year.

Senate Democrats are urging more spending to expand the ranks of the FBI's financial fraud investigators.

Nonverbal Communication Reveals Status

Body Language Reveals Wealth from yahoo.news. Not just a wealth of information about you, but what wealth and status you have.

From the article:

A flashy handbag or Armani suit can signal a person's wealth, but so can their body language, according to a new study. People of higher socioeconomic status are more rude when conversing with others.

Psychologists Michael Kraus and Dacher Keltner of the University of California, Berkeley, ... looked for certain gestures that indicate level of interest in the other person during one-minute slices of each conversation. .. They found that students whose parents were from higher socioeconomic status (SES) backgrounds engaged in more of what he called "impolite" behaviors, such as grooming, doodling and fidgeting. Lower SES students showed more "I'm interested" gestures, including laughter and raising of the eyebrows.

Research appeared in January issue of Psychological Science.

If you want to know more about nonverbal communication, and how to manage yours, order "Nonverbal Communication" or take The EQ Course. Email me for more information - sdunn@susandunn.cc Coaching includes personal assessment of your own nonverbal communication gestures, expressions, etc.

Clearly it pays to know what your nonverbal communication reveals about you, and how to get it in line with what you want it to reveal.

What do Obama's nonverbals reveal? See ARTICLE HERE on discussion of Obama's gestures, expressions, posture, etc.

Emotional Self-Regulation for Stressed Students in LA

From today's emailbag ... a chance to help bring emotional intelligence to Los Angeles's urban high school youth. I am pleased to pass on this opportunity to spread emotional intelligence. The email is from Robert A. Rees, PH.D., the Institute of HeartMath:

The Institute of HeartMath has been invited to design and implement a social and emotional intelligence program specifically tailored to a unique student population in Los Angeles's—urban [sic] high school youth in Green Dot Public Charter Schools.

With a highly committed and caring staff, the Green Dot Schools are transforming high school education in Los Angeles starting with 18 charter high schools which serve some of Los Angeles's lowest income communities. The majority of their students are either Latino or African American with more than one-third classified as English Language Learners.

Green Dots [sic]overall goal is to get all of their students ready to enter college. By offering academically rigorous programs to high schoolers in small, safe learning environments, they are giving hope and opportunity to students accustomed [sic] second-rate education, high drop out rates, violent neighborhoods, and bleak futures.
[The] principal of Animo Justice High School in Central Los Angeles describes the challenges students face just to get to school each day: “For many students, the simple act of getting to school each morning involves crossing several rival gang areas, leaving students in a state of chronic traumatic stress which interferes with their well-being, learning and participation.”

District Psychologist, Daun Baker, speaks about the importance of the HeartMath program being developed for Green Dot Schools: “Providing students with emotional self-regulation skills has the potential to have an enormously positive impact on student’s academic and personal lives.” ...

HeartMath's goal now is to raise $20,000 over the next 4 months to pay for the design and implementation of a fall pilot program at Animo Justice for ninth- and 11th-graders.

With your help we will provide students in Central LA with an emotional intelligence program that really speaks to their hearts and then one day expand this program to high school students in urban school districts throughout the United States.

Click here to invest in HeartMath's Green Dot Schools Initiative

To learn more about Green Dot Schools click here.

Thank you for your support,

Robert A. Rees, PH.D.
Director of Education and Humanities
Institute of HeartMath

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With THE EQ COURSE you can learn emotional self-regulation skills as an adult. We never stop learning, and these skills are even more important in today's economic climate.

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