If we are automatically wired to help other people, how come we don't more often, or even all the time? Daniel Goleman asks, and answers, this question in this video -- interesting that someone sent me this after the wonderful GOOD SAMARITAN experience I had recently. (Actually I have had them v. often, and I try and return the favors.)
Listen to Daniel Goleman, who wrote "Emotional Intelligence," on the topic of Good Samaritan-ism in his video, "Why Aren't We All Good Samaritans"?
He mentions doing research on marriage in the NY Times, and finding a woman, Alice, who had a simple Dating Test: From the moment they were together, how long did it take the guy to ask her a question using the word "you." The man she married did is almost immediately. Word!
Goleman mentions coining a word for when the person you are talking to suddenly whips out their blackberry or cell phone, totally ignoring you. Since the word is a poor choice, rather easily miscontrued, I will just point you to Daniel Goleman's blog.