Paul Pearsall, Ph.D., has written a great book called "Pleasure Principle." He is part-Hawaiian, and talks about the Pacific Rim mentality. (Eastern, Western and Oceanic thinking)
They have a word ha'aha'a which means "making contact before communicating."
Here are some of his 'rules' for ha'aha'a:
Always pause for several seconds and be quiet.
Look before you talk.
Read how the person seems to be feeling.
Connect with your eyes before you use your mouth.
Never being talking without looking.
Never say anything without scanning first.