Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Develop Your Child's EQ


Be an angel and read to your child. The literacy rate in this country has been increasing at the basic level, but things like the SAT scores have not. It's not just being able to read a road sign or catalogue, but being able to express oneself deeply and accurately with words, and the ability to appreciate beautiful words, lyrical prose, "the well-turned phrase," the rhythm of speech, and tone. The conversation of our youth is punctuated with "doh," and "like" and "dude," and while we can read, it doesn't appear that being able to write has kept up with the pace.

We learn to write by reading. We learn volcabulary by hearing good speech, reading and being read to.

"The Reading Mother"

I had a mother who read to me
Sagas of pirates who scoured the sea,
Cutlasses clenched in their yellow teeth,
"Blackbirds" stowed in the hold beneath.
I had a Mother who read me lays
Of ancient and gallant and golden days;
Stories of Marmion and Ivanhoe,
Which every boy has a right to know.
I had a Mother who read me tales
Of Gelert the hound of the hills of Wales,
True to his trust till his tragic death,
Faithfulness blent with his final breath.
I had a Mother who read me the things
That wholesome life to the boy heart brings —
Stories that stir with an upward touch,
Oh, that each mother of boys were such!
You may have tangible wealth untold;
Caskets of jewels and coffers of gold.
Richer than I you can never be —
I had a Mother who read to me.

- Strickland Gillilan

Part of emotional intelligence is the ability to express your emotions in words. This is one of the ways we contain and manage our feelings. Paucity of speech limits us. Use big words and correct grammar with your children; that's how they'll learn it best. It will stretch you, too, and bring you up as well.

EXERCISE FOR THE KIDS: Make some flash cards of words for emotion, and get beyond "angry," "sad," "happy." Put in some nuances, like "dejected" or "pensive." All words are new to kids, so feed them some gourmet language, not junk food. Just listen to what this little doll can do with words: .

Watch those SAT scores go up. And that is said half in jest. We don't learn in order to pass a test, or to impress, we do it for the enrichment it gives us.

Most of all pass on THE JOY OF LEARNING to your kids.

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