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THE TOP 10 REASONS WHY SMART PEOPLE LEARN A SECOND LANGUAGE

As someone said, words keep us from floating free in space. Vocabulary is actually important to emotional intelligence. Otherwise you only "go to the dark place" and cannot name the feelings, in their nuances. It's highly recommended that you learn a second language because you don't know your own language until you've learned another one. You are like the fish who doesn't know the water.

Consider some of these examples in terms of the limitations the words and grammar of a language put on the person's thinking or alternatively permit their thinking, i.e., how can you consider someone "condescending" if there is no word for it in your language. There is no word because either everyone is condescending, or no one is?

1. ITALIAN

There are no words for "condescending," "self control" or "hangover."

Like all Romance languages, there is a formal "you," which English does not have. Originally to be used for nobles and upper class, this has been bandied about politically. One of Mussolini's reforms was to banish the use of the formal "you."

2. CZECH

If a person starts a sentence with a personal pronoun (I, you, we), especially with "I", they are considered very rude, ignorant, trying to attract attention, or all of these things.
You can put the words in a sentence in any order.

There are four words for what in English is "love."

There is one word for "borrow" and "lend."

3. RUSSIAN

There is no word for "integrity."

There are also no words for computer, broker, consultant, sponsor, dealer, cheeseburger or corn flakes. (English words are borrowed.)

4. ESKIMO

There are 15 words for "snow."

5. SPANISH

There is no way to say “He broke the glass” or “I broke the glass.” The glass just broke. The car just crashed. The milk just got spilt.

There are two verbs for "to be." One is for temporary (He is happy) and one is for permanent (He is tall).

No quotation marks are used!

6. GERMAN

The verb is usually at the end of the sentence.

There is no word for "soulmate."

The word for "I" is not capitalized, but the words for "you" are.

7. MANDARIN CHINESE

There is no change in word order between a question and a statement. (Obviously intonation is very important in this language.)

The nouns are not plural, i.e., He has three sister.

8. ARABIC

The verb comes first in the sentence.

It is read from right to left.

One should aim at “rhythmical balance and coordination”, with the split between subject and predicate occurring midway in a sentence.

The adjective follows the noun.

9. FRENCH

A term of endearment is "my little cabbage."

There is no word for "entrepreneur."

There is no present progressive form. No distinction is made between "she eats" and "she is eating."

10. JAPANESE

Pronouns, subjects and objects are omitted. Wakarimasen means I don’t understand, he doesn’t understand, you don’t understand. Kaimasita means (I) bought (it).

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